What makes a WS a FWS ?
Or better, a DS (dear spouse <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />) again ?
I have been pondering on this a while.

For me it's not
- because the A ended
- because WS realises OP wasn't such a soulmate/catch after all
- because WS realises OP isn't worth sacrificing the M for
- staying in the M because the BS now fills the EN's of the WS (again).

What if another OP comes along that looks like a better catch than previous OP or BS ? An OP that seems to be worth sacrificing the M for ? At a time that the BS cannot fill all EN's so well because of circumstances ?

No, to me a WS needs to change his/her outlook on life. And realise that running away from problems into some willing OP's arms instead of facing the problems, will ruin this M, and any next relationship. The WS needs to grow out of the self-centered "I need this... I want this..." thinking that leads to A's.

Only then they deserve the "F" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> - IMHO.

agrees with brownhair..
good one

Dear Justempty,

your sig line seems to sum up my post.
I do hope you'll feel "filled" again soon my dear.
That might seem hard to imagine so soon after D-Day, but I assure you that you WILL get through this, no matter what happens. And that we're here for you when you need us.

(((((Justempty)))))

Thanks brown
I have alot of issues and they are burying me right now. I am trying my best to be positive. Sometimes I win, sometimes I lose. But I am trying not to run away right now...
I think someone here has a quote from finding nemo...I have another for me...just keep swimming...just keep swimming...
I actually sing it in my head..talk about wacko...lol
Tammy

I don't think that is wacked at all justempty. I kind of like it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


Brownhair,

It is so good to see your name back on the board! And I'll add one that someone posted to me not to long ago, which seems so obvious that it never even occured to me that some WS's just don't get this.

Love is a choice!

I believe that when they do become repentent, this will be part of that light bulb moment.

Hi Weaver,
yes I'm back, although not for the best of reasons <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />.
How are you my dear?
And do you know how Noodle's doing?

Noodle hasn't been on here since the new board. I hope she is well and really do miss her, as I am sure a lot of others do too.

What is going on that brings you back Brownhair?