I was reading one of your posts and saw that you and your H had had As--if I read that right. Did you happen to have them at the same time or one right after the other? My H are dealing with each other's As and it has been really tough (refer to my recent post). If you have any tips/words of encouragement, I would love to hear them.

Hi Improving,

I will look for your thread. I had an A 10 years ago with a co-worker that lasted almost 2 years. Never told my H (very cowardly I know)but he found out in November when someone told him. 4 years ago my H had his first A with an old g/f, EA turned PA long distance. Then he had an A with another old g/f Feb 2004 to June 2004 which resulted in an OC born Feb 05. After we had reconciled (I thought) he began another A with a customer of his which I think lasted about 5 months. He is NC now with all except for occasional contact with baby mama OW re OC. I have filed for D but we are in the process of discussing postponing the D as he is finally willing to really work things through. He is going to write a list of personal boundaries (I gave him some examples) and we are going to to the ENQ. It has been a long haul and this will be the last try, I told him I would drop dead on the spot if he has another A.