Sat here in Edinburgh Airport waiting to go home and YES my heart is still light ! Amazing how such a small thing as thos efew words and tears could mean so much to me.

I feel my year's heroics have been vindicated. My baby loves me, doesn't compare me in any negative light to OM and now sees abolsutely nothing good about her affair.

I am lifted beyong the grasp of the problems that beset us.

I wonder if I can hear God's 'still small voice' saying " I told you i would in MY good time".
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Thanks friends.

Those of you who followed my tale know what this means to me and to Squid. SHE will not accept blame or admit responsibility, me a heritage conflict avoider.

All resolved yaterday.

I can't wait to hold her and kiss her when I get home !

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<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> give her a kiss from me too!

Wow, I leave for the Fourth for a few days, and WOW! So happy to hear!!!

Got round to reading your early posts last nite Bob.
It was strange to 'feel' the panic you were gong through a year ago, compared to the confident messages you are able to give here now.
I have found it a very inspiring experience.

Also saw the MB Photos too.
Gee whiz - BS's and WS's look just like me and my hubby!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

Weird, but gives you another boost of self confidence that it happens to 'other normal people'.

Bob, fantastic news 4 u. Words cant say enough.

{{{{big hug}}}}

Hope

AWESOME! Bob, you've been a true inspiration - I look at stories like yours and it brings me hope through the darkest of fog.

God bless you and your marriage; and more than anything praise God in all His glory!

Hopefully someday, I will have a success story like yours - I won't let Shannon go; Satan may tug, but I shall hold my ground until God tells me its time to let go; or better yet, restores my marriage <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

PRAISE JESUS!!! WOOOOOOO!

Bob,

Great news---I'm happy that she trusts you enough to share those feelings. You've been doing a very fine job!

Thanks Mr Stone.

I would be lying if I told you I don't feel proud. To stick at this for a year with gradually improving resoults, arrving at this turning point is something I am very proud of.

I am humbled as you say that Squid obviously trusts me with such painful intimacy from her.

More work to do however.

I hope you and Mrs K & rugrats are well and happy, sir.

Hey, you've got every right to be proud. I'm glad that you have been able to stick this through, and not succumb to instinct...

Rugrats, brood, and Mrs. K are all fine... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Best to you and your family.

bOb,

Very glad to hear the news.

Just curious about the...

"you CAN get over your obsession with OP"......How is that working for you. Can the "Sorry" actually get you over the obsession?

I lay awake nights thinking of ways to F&%@ UP my OM. Helps me get to sleep.

Hope you were far away from the underground in London this AM. God help us!!

k

Hi Krusht !

I was far from London, thankfully, unlike plenty of other poor buggers.... grr

Re: my 'obsession' with OM, I don;t think I have one. I really quite enjoy righteously lothing the reptile, and its always nice to hear of some new sadness has befallen him, but I'm hardly obsessed. I am a two hour drive from him house. Going to see him, cutting his brake pipes, burning down his house - THAT is obsession.

He is completely unimportant to me now, but hating him is an engaging distraction when I feel angry about Squid's affair.

I don't really WANT to stop thinking about OM, as like you, fantasizing about his downfall, or luckier for me actually cogitating on his REAL crumbling life is comforting and amusing to me.

No, I've thought about it and I'm not obsessed.

The man caused me adeliberate, grievous hurt. It is not obsession to wish him ill while his memory grows distant.

Bob! Havent been here for ages and am delighted that you got your happy ending after all that you've been through!

Wonderful!

Hugs
Debra xx

bOb,

OK, then I've got what you got...a very enjoyable fantasy of different ways to cause the OM harm. It is a kind of comfort and I, too, don't believe it is an obsession. It could probably make a great video game.

So...where are the brake pipes, are they accesible from under the vehicle, and ......just kidding.......yeah right!! grrrrrrr!!

Again so happy for the "SORRY" and the one step closer to being even better than it was before for you two!

k

Bob, last week I was on leave for a few days and wasn’t around on these forums very much. I have just read the WONDERFULL news about your W’s sincere apology to you and I just want to say, I’m SO happy for you! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> I have followed your posts and I know how long you have waited and wished for those words… ALL THE THANKS TO GOD!

There is only one thing that concerns me Bob and I’m a bit worried about it – it’s the fact that your W said she don’t know if she can forgive herself… Bob, I really, really hope your W can find a way to find peace and forgiveness within herself, but I think this will also happen with time & patience…. She already knows and feels that both you and God have forgiven her…but I think she’s just not ready to fully accept it...probably because she feels she doesn’t deserve it after what she has done to you… Just continue to give her your full love, support and acceptance Bob and I’m sure it will help her to come to terms with this as well. Reminds her continuously that she is NOT the same person who had the A…that the ‘old’ person is long gone and buried now… That she is now a ‘new’ and ‘cleansed’ person in you and God’s eyes... That Jesus has died for her sins on the cross to prepare her as God's bride...and to 'wash' her ”as white as snow”. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

All blessings,
Suzet

Suzet it IS a wonderful development in so many ways. The lightness of being Squid has displayed increasingly since her apology has been a joy for me to experience. It took a year of love and investment to get her here but its a SOLID development now its has arrived, you know what I mean?

I don;t like that Squid hates herself and feels unworthy of forgiveness too. We have spoken many times about how we don't always get what we deserve and that God's grace canot be earned.

I have every hope that now she has smashed through the accountability wall, she can work on forgiving herself now.

God told me that He would heal and change Squid and I in HIS timetable not mine, and I have no reason to dispute that !

I told her " do not hate yourself. I do not hate you, God doesn;t hate you. we love you. We hate what you did but SO DO YOU ! Thats the RIGHT attitude to make God happy and have a successful "rest of our lives" !

I think she's just starting to believe that.

Bob,

since i am posting today, this is another thread that i had to search out and say... CONGRATULATIONS.

i am really happy to hear how wonderful things are going.

some day i hope to post 'I got my "YOU ARE FORGIVEN"'

all the best to you and squid

fl-t2a

All i can say is
=:oD

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what does fl-t2a stand for??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

i go by t2m, time to mature.

what are you having me do???

(this is my comic relief while i try to write out my update in a new thread i am in the process of writing)

the T2A was a prototype T2M, that was quicker accelerating, but didn;t boil water as quickly. Also it was only available in green, and with a red doohickey.

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lol, thanks for that explanation....

back to writing my update...