I don't know where else to post this. My W is Japanese, and we have a 2-yr assignment in Hiroshima. I have to return to US in August, and she does not want to go back. Her family and friends are here where she grew up, and she hates the US. My family and autistic son from a previous marriage live in US. She had emotional affair in US, which made life miserable for us. I had two affairs since then, due to anger and emotional needs not met. One OW is in US.
W is using this website's idea that I should move away from OW if marriage is priority, and that children should be second priority to marriage to justify her belief that I should stay in Japan for her. I need to take charge of my autistic son's care as my EX is not. Complicated. HELP!!!!

Hey ((MS)), welcome.... I don't know if I'll come up with any advice but I'll throw in a couple pennies.


When you typed that, I heard "My wife emotional affair made us miserable and then I had a couple of affairs because she wasn't meeting my needs and I was upset with her." No where in what I hear you typing do I hear you taking any responsibility for what's happened, rather I hear you shifting all the blame on her. I only bring this up because if that is what she hears when you talk to her then your relationship needs work in the communication arena. Regardless of anything else, you chose to have an affair and that's the bottom line. I can't help but to wonder if some of this moving situation is propelled by poor accountability or poor communication.


Are you planning on moving near the other woman? In the same town? In the same state?