I am not sure where I should post this, I have been posting in emotional needs, but I have herd alot about plan A/B I have tried to find in detail what they are, but have not found them. Could someone let me know where to look?

I want to see if the plans are of any help to me but I think we are beyond help now. I cant live like this anymore (long story) and I really think I want out. This is something I have been thinking a lot about, but didn't think I would actually do, until tonight.

I tried talking to him again, bad move, and in short, the conversation ended with him saying "I can't do this for you, I can't give you what you need." He has never said anything in that context, the one that validates the fact that he knows I do have needs, that they aren't all just crazyness and mood swings like he always tells me.

He (after yelling at me and telling me to get my "head strait") Finally gave me the thing I really needed. I needed to know that he herd me. He did, and he can't / won't try where I NEED him to. I can't keep living in this darkness.

The problem is I have nothing. He makes the money, my job hardly brings in anything. I have no where to go with my kids. I don't want his money or his house. My mother would let us stay with her, but she doesn't have room. I can't have my kids sleeping on the couch every night.

I truely love him, and don't know how to be without him, but I believe there is no hope for us and we are just prolonging the end. Please, any advice would help me.

-SpiningSwan

I'm sorry you are going through all of this spiningswan.

I would suggest you that you post this under the General Questions forum as it gets a lot more traffic. The people who frequent there have much more experience than I do and would be better able to answer your questions.

Know that you aren't unique in this, in fact my own WH said the exact same thing to me. Straight out of the A text book I imagine.

Glad you found us. Keep posting!

Thank you.

Could you tell me where to find the details of what plans A/B are?

-SS

I don't know the exact locations, but try a search on the main site or on here, with keywords in subject plan A Plan B

OK, Used to be in the good old days you could find things a little easier...took me a while, but I found this...

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html

I really think you should pop down to your local bookstore and order "Surviving an Affair" by dr. Harley. It is really the most concise information about Plan A/B..however the website I gave you should do to start.

I'll check back if you have any questions.
Hang in there,
T