Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum
This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at
mbrestored@gmail.com
|
|
|
|
Joined: May 2005
Posts: 28
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: May 2005
Posts: 28 |
Five years ago I married my husband.
This is both of our second marriages.
We both came into our marriage with
children and had one together.
After us living under the same roof,
my husband became verbally and emotionally
abusive.
That made me build up resentment towards
him. Then soon after, like a year later,
we ended up yelling and fighting.
Then things became physical. I documented
all the times he hurt me and what he
said to me.
I even took pictures of some bruises
he left on me from holding me down.
He was arrested last summer.
We went to counseling where he got
defensive so we stopped going. I gave
up.
During then, he gambled away $14,000
of our money.
Then he said he'd stop. A few weeks
ago I found out he started again.
I documented all the dates.
He promised again he'd stop cuz he would
lose me.
He lied to me so many times. I have
fallen out of love.
All the yelling and hurt and physical
abuse has stopped, but I feel I do
not really love him at all. Counseling
didnt help to the extent because he
gets too defensive.
He can be very jealous and possesive.
Then, after all that, there is someone
I am attracted to who feels the same.
Though we never spoke, our eyes tell
a story when we see each other each time.
I am afraid to leave my home and breaking
up our family. I know I am not in love
and can't truly trust my husband. And
I don't want to have an affair and hurt
him.
What I wish was that I could find a
way to not be with him, and only my
children, and then if it was meant
to be, to be with this other person
perhaps.
I have not been in love with my husband
in 5 years. I stay for the kids and our
home. For that security. The kids only
know a tiny bit of what happened.
The abuse usually happened when
no one was around.
Please pray for me. My heart and soul
wish to leave him but since I am a
stay at home mom for a little while longer,
I am nervous about doing anything.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 2002
Posts: 1,361
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Sep 2002
Posts: 1,361 |
DD,
Prayers are up for you. You have recieved VERY VERY GOOD advice from Jaye, Lucks and Star. Please listen to them and protect yourself and your kids.
Blessings to you.
S&C
No man likes to have his intelligence or good faith questioned, especially if he has doubts about it himself. - Henry Brooks Adams
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: May 2005
Posts: 28
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: May 2005
Posts: 28 |
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 2002
Posts: 1,361
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Sep 2002
Posts: 1,361 |
DD, Have you read your thread called More lies? Lucks and star*fish have been around a while and they've both helped me out more than they even know. Blessing to you. S&C
No man likes to have his intelligence or good faith questioned, especially if he has doubts about it himself. - Henry Brooks Adams
|
|
|
|
0 members (),
457
guests, and
620
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,625
Posts2,323,527
Members72,060
| |
Most Online8,273
Aug 17th, 2025
|
|
|
|
|
|
