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#1435117 07/22/05 06:26 PM
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Hi everyone. I have never posted over here before. But I posted a post on the GENERAL DISCUSSIONS board that I probably should have posted here. It is called HAS ANYONE EVER HOOKED UP WITH THE OW/OM'S SPOUSE? sounds wierd I know but read the post. I was just curious on input on the post and don't know how to like cut and paste it over here. Maybe you could swing over there take a look and comment??? mlhb

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Use the reply rather than the quick reply and then scroll down to bottom where it says

Instant UBB code

under that select URL and then follow directions to insert your link on this board. I looked for your post but didnt find it on a quick search or else I would reply. When I have a few minutes I will do the longer search to see if I can find it.


XH has multiple addictions. 26 year history of drug&alcohol problems, physical as well as emotional abuse.

Divorced 11-03

Engaged to former sweetheart from my youth, God is Good!

GRADUATED FROM COLLEGE!!!!! Passed my first (and hardest) of 3 medical boards 10-12-07

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gen questions II discussion


Sorry, I cant really reply of this. I did have contact with OW's H in the discovery phase of the affair and then initally when he was going through divorce. It was possible that I would have testified in his divorce trial due to my X being an alcoholic/addict and he was concerned with his 5YO child riding in hmy X's car while he was impaired. But it was not necessary for me to go to court.

OW is MUCH youger and her X is only a little older than her so it never crossed my mind to enter any kind of relationship with him, or anyone else at that time anyway. I was hurting too bad and needed to repair my life. Seems like this situation would only make things worse at a time when you need to work on yourself and understanding your part in the marriage failure.

Seems like a big mistake to me.

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XH has multiple addictions. 26 year history of drug&alcohol problems, physical as well as emotional abuse.

Divorced 11-03

Engaged to former sweetheart from my youth, God is Good!

GRADUATED FROM COLLEGE!!!!! Passed my first (and hardest) of 3 medical boards 10-12-07

I am trusting God.

if you keep you face to the sunshine; you will never see the shadows Helen Keller
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Oh yes, I agree. No relationship for either one of us right now with anyone. We both need time to heal. Like I said, we have known eachother a very long time and I know the family well. I meant like in the future when we are both ready to date again. And who knows when that will be! I was just curious if anyone else had seen this type of thing happen. mlhb

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how do I know what the URL is for my post on the other board??? mlhb


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