Hello MBers - This is a re-write of my earlier, unanswered post . . . <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> I have a chance to go away on vacation for a week with DD, and WH will not be going. Is it wise for me to go away given that I am in the midst of Plan A, with Plan B on the horizon? As an update, when our MC asked WH recently what he was feeling about our R/M, he replied that he felt "numb" and "without any emotion." So, I left MC pleased that he had gone (he hasn't gone in weeks) but saddened that he is still so distant. I have been in Plan A for almost 4 months . . . can anyone (particularly FWS's) interpret this? Is it wise to go away right now without him - or will I be enabling his A? I do not know if the A is ongoing; his time seems to be accounted for, I have found no evidence by way of occasional snooping; and I have exposed the A to his family. But . . . he still works with OW and thus has contact (no 2 x 4s please, the reality is, he won't leave that job anytime soon). Thanks for your thoughts! Stung

I think you need a vacation.

Go and have a good time.

You deserve a vacation but I hope you don't spend it worrying what your WH is doing. Go for the sake of your DD.

Thanks Pep and BHINWI. We're going. He is the master of his own fate . . .