I have been living in Hungary with my H (who was born there but grew up in US) for 5.5years. Things have been a struggle to say the least. Found out 2.5weeks ago about his PA with an employee. He wanted me to come home to the US to be apart for awhile. Then he changed his mind, but by then I had decided it was best for ME to be home with family, etc. We don't have children.
The apartment we live in has been sold and we have to be out by August 11th. He has continued to see her and has told me so. He can't make up his mind who he wants. Keeps sending me emails telling me how much he loves me, that when he looks to the future he only sees me in it, I'm his only soulmate, the best decision he ever made was to marry me, he's so sorry for hurting me, yada yada yada on and on.
My problem at the moment (amoung other things) is should I go back to Hungary and get my things and ship them home?
I don't see how I can implement Plan A if he refuses to stop seeing her. My only thoughts are Plan B, get my things, ship them home, start my own life, and wait and see.
I asked him on Tuesday if it was reasonable to make a decision by Saturday about living arragements..where to put our stuff, etc? He said yes. I am going out of my mind...stewing here at home...He mentioned finding an apartment for "us" moving in, and then waiting to see if his "relationship" with her will go anywhere. It's so true what you all say about their brains going into outer space.
Can't even recognize him anymore. We've been together for 17 years, married for 11. I'm supposed to sit on my hands and keep my mouth shut over here with my two weeks worth of clothes, etc....and wait for him to determine our future?
Arghghghghg.....
Thinking seriously about just flying back without telling him when..pack the rest of my stuff (I packed 80% in the three days after finding out about A) ship it, and come home.
Or do I keep waiting and let him move everything? Help.....
