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Going to be destroyed Financaly soon HELP !
#1445759 08/05/05 06:17 PM
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My wife is going to get me and her destroyed finacaly soon.

We own our home free and clear.
I work and pay bills.

She wants to borrow money in a few days to the Max and
do some things that are stuped in my view.

She has let me know if I don't go along its Divorce
and I will be Destroyed Financaly.

So ether way its bad.

What I see is soon living in a Bar Ditch ether way.

I am a Christaian Man and am getting very very Depresed.
I have went Bankrupt in the Past and this I can see will be
a repeat only a LOT Faster and a LOT Worse.

All I can see is it's going to happen soon (Few Days)

We will not have a Paid for Home. No Where to live.

Advice ?
Re: Going to be destroyed Financaly soon HELP !
MrFreckles #1445760 08/09/05 10:40 AM
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I would seek the help of a financial advisor...I'd talk to your W and tell her you will agree to it if the advisor thinks it is a wise idea. If not, let her go forward with D. It sounds like your W is being totally unreasonable. When you are married, your financial decisions are not made by one, they are joint decisions. Whatever you do, I would not agree to sign anything that you are not comfortable with, that is no way to save a marriage. How do you figure that D would mean financial ruin for you? That sounds like a better idea than going into debt willingly. You may want to seek the advice of a financial advisor/attourney anyway, for yourself to understand the repercusions of your wife going into debt while married to you.
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Keewee #1445761 08/09/05 11:13 AM
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Your state may have laws that can somehow make her debt her own, and not yours. I suggest you ask an attorney.

And keep posting here; there is at least one practicing attorney that participates from time to time - so you may get a useful response.

Can I suggest you start a new thread in the Infidelity/General Questions II area? It gets a lot more viewers. The people there are very sympathetic and helpful; and will understand if your question isn't really about infidelity. Good luck!
Re: Going to be destroyed Financaly soon HELP !
weneedhelp #1445762 08/10/05 06:18 AM
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Not enough info here for me to make sense of your situtuion.

Do not do anything you are not comfortable with. There are often many solutions to consider.

Have you contacted Crown fincial minstries? They are on the net and can help you find a local advisor. They do not charge a fee.

I agree you should repost.
I will put you in my prayers
your sister in Christ,
Faith
Re: Going to be destroyed Financaly soon HELP !
VeryTrulyYours #1445763 08/10/05 10:03 AM
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What does your wife need money for?

Unecessary home improvements?

Or something critical like a septic system repair, new roof, heating system? Education for herself or children? Dental surgery?

You failed to include important details like why you feel you cannot pay back the loan. Does your wife work?

Keewee said it sounds like your wife is being totally unreasonable, but my feeling is that she must have a good reason if she's using the "D" word.

Me: 56
H: 61
DD: 13 and hormonal
DS: 20

Oldest son died 1994 @ age 8

Happily married 30+ years

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