I was thinking of making my WW a mix CD of songs that relate to our situation. She is a music lover and might respond to something like this. BUT, I need some suggestions on good songs.
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If you're unfamiliar with my situation, here is a synopsis:

Married 5 yrs w 2yr. old daughter.
Wife cheated. I discovered it.
Later she moved out w daughter
She has filed for divorce
Her OM broke up with her
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Here are the first two songs I'm thinking might be good:
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Over And Over
by: NELLY (w Tim McGraw)
LYRICS:

Cause its all in my head
I think about it over and over again
And I can't keep picturing you with him
And it hurts so bad, yeah
Cause it's all in my head
I think about it over and over again
I replay it over and over again
And I can't take it yeah I can't shake it
Nooo

I can't wait to see you
Want to see if you still got that look in your eyes
That one you had for me before we said our goodbyes
And it's a shame that we got to spend our time
Being mad about the same things
Over and over again
About the same things
Over and over again
Ohh
But I think she's leaving
Ooh man she's leaving
I don't know what else to do
(I can't go on not loving you)

Cause its all in my head
I think about it over and over again
And I can't keep picturing you with him
And it hurts so bad, yeah
Cause its all in my head
I think about it over and over again
I replay it over and over again yeah
And I can't take it yeah I can't shake it
Nooo

I remember the day you left
I remember the last breath you took right in front of me
When you said that u would leave
I was too damn stubborn to try to stop you or say anything
But I see clearly now
And this choice I made keep playing in my head
Over and over again
Playing my head
Over and over again
Ohh
I think she's leaving
Ooh man she's leaving
I don't know what else to do
(I can't go on not loving you)

Cause its all in my head
I think about it over and over again
And I can't keep picturing you with him
And it hurts so bad, yeah
Cause its all in my head
I think about it over and over again
I replay it over and over again
And I can't take it I can't shake it
Nooo

(Now that I've realizes that I'm going down
From all this pain you've put me through
Everytime I close my eyes I lock it down
I can't go on not loving you)

Cause its all in my head
I think about it over and over again
And I can't keep picturing you with him
And it hurts so bad, yeah
Cause its all in my head
I think about it over and over again
I replay it over and over again
And I can't take it I can't shake it
Nooo

Cause its all in my head
I think about it over and over again
And I can't keep picturing you with him
And it hurts so bad, yeah
Cause its all in my head
I think about it over and over again
I replay it over and over again
And I can't take it I can't shake it
Nooo

Over and Over again
Over and Over again
Cause it's all in my head

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BARENAKED LADIES LYRICS
(This one is not entirely appropriate, but it's a good song)

"The Old Apartment"

Broke into the old apartment
This is where we used to live
Broken glass, broke and hungry
Broken hearts and broken bones
This is where we used to live

Why did you paint the walls?
Why did you clean the floor?
Why did you plaster over the hole I punched in the door?
This is where we used to live

Why did you keep the mousetrap?
Why did you keep the dishrack?
these things used to be mine
I guess they still are, I want them back

Broke into the old apartment
Forty-two stairs from the street
Crooked landing, crooked landlord
Narrow laneway filled with crooks
This is where we used to live

Why did they pave the lawn?
why did they change the locks?
Why did I have to break it, I only came here to talk
This is where we used to live

How is the neighbour downstairs?
How is her temper this year?
I turned up your TV and stomped on the floor just for fun
I know we don't live here anymore
We bought an old house on the Danforth
She loves me and her body keeps me warm
I'm happy here
But this is where we used to live

Broke into the old apartment
Tore the phone out of the wall
Only memories, fading memories
Blending into dull tableaux

I want them back
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SUGGESTIONS?

Find The Real by Alter Bridge

Stuck in the middle I burrow inside
Back to the cradle
Away from the burdens of all my crimes
Before it’s fatal
My past has found me the truth’s come out
All is remembered
With no place to fall but straight down
I must surrender

Well it seems I’ve
Finally thought of everything
I wanna love
I wanna feel
Find peace
Find the real

There’s a face I put on all my life
The face of an angel
But I look in the mirror only to find
The face of a stranger
And with all I’ve taken I hunger for more
Cause I’m selfish
And all I’m left with is a crown of thorns
And I’m helpless

Well it seems I’ve
Finally thought of everything
I wanna love
I wanna feel
Find peace
Find the real

I’ll trade these lies for something right
I’ll kill what hurts with something pure
I will be redeemed so I can breathe again

Well it seems I’ve
Finally thought of everything
I wanna love
I wanna feel
Find peace
Find the real
Well it seems I’ve
Finally thought of everything
I wanna love
I wanna feel
Find peace
Find the real

Thanks WHnowBS

Everyone doesn't need to post lyrics. I'm just looking for good ideas...

I did that too.

I would suggest not to - it seemed manipulative to her.

Just my opinion, YMMV.

Jann Arden...

Willing to Fall Down

I agree, could be a well thought out Love Buster......

Wouldn't that just depend on what you put on it?

If you put more positive songs vs songs accusing her of cheating or whatever?

Maybe my first suggestions are too confrontational...

Little did I know it but when I gave my then W her CD she had just returned from signing all of the paperwork at her attorneys. All that needed to be done was serve me my crap sandwich...(her divorce papers)

I would suggest that you do not create such a CD and give it to her. If everything works out here Gramn many, if not all of those songs will become triggers....which will hinder recovery. Trust me you're dying to get to that point (recovering)... My XW tells me that there are certain songs that really troubled her (like One- by U2).

However, that is not to say it is not a good excercise. I am certain that I listened to my copy of the CD more than she did. In fact I know exactly where mine is.

There are songs that will always bring you back to your darkest hours...one for me is "My Immortal" by Evanescence...

Apparently for her is "Over and over" because when that song came out we had just gotten back together...and I broke off a serious relationship with someone else...When I see the video...I almost die...BIG TRIGGERS..private jet, hangers, airports....which is where her rich old man boyfriend used to have her meet him....

Anyway Gramn...good luck...

Okay then, Gramn, for YOUR CD (and hers, one day). . . to give you momentum and power to continue your Plan A as needed, and to continue to "stack sandbags against the river of her troubles":

COME ON HOME

by The Indigo Girls

Dark clouds are comin' in like an army
Soon the sky will open up and disarm me
And you will go, just like you've gone before
One sad soldier off to war
Enemies that only you can see

Dishes stacked, the table cleared
It's always like the scene of the Last Supper here
You speak so cryptically, but that's not news to me
The flood is here, it will carry you
And I've got work to do

Come on home
The team you're hitched to has a mind of its own
It's just the forces of your past you've fought before
Come back here and shut the door
I'm stacking sandbags against the river of your troubles

There is fire, and there is lust
Some would trade it all for someone they could trust
There's a bag of silver for a box of nails
It's so simple the betrayal
Though it's known to change the world and what's to come

Come on home
The team you're hitched to has a mind of its own
It's just the forces of your past you've fought before
Don't you recognise them any more
I'm stacking sandbags against the river of your troubles

There's the given and the expected
I count my blessings while I eye what I've neglected
Is this for better, is this for worse
You're all jammed up and the dam's about to burst

I hear the owl in the night
I realise that some things never are made right
But by some will we string together here
Days to months and months to years
What if everything we have adds up to nothing?

Come on home
The team you're hitched to has a mind of its own
It's just the forces of your past you've fought before
Come back here and shut the door
I'm stacking sandbags against the river of your troubles

SLH:

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Gramn: While it's useful for you 2 post song lyrics and get feedback about them here, I think cutting her a disk of R songs would be like Rogers and Hammerstein making a musical version of the movie "Unfaithful."

It's educating her, and you know it won't work.

-ol' 2long

Gramn-

I actually think that a mix CD would be a good idea, I would put other kinds of songs on there though....no *cheating* songs, although I understand the reason....I listened to all those, and it seemed like they described the situation perfectly.

I would concentrate on songs like, *your song* if you have one, songs that are saying you love her...stuff like that.

I made my husband a CD like this, and I think that it sort of got my feelings across a lot better than simply telling him. I know that it may work even better with a woman, I know I pay great attention to lyrics.

So choose your songs wisely....I think the 2 you picked are a little accusatory, I would go with different choices.

-Caren

How many CDs have you made her in the past?

I'm not that good at makig CDs. That was why I was here loooking for Ideas...

It would be good to pick songs taht evoke memories from our past, but she probably has most of those locked up in her apartment.

Gramn-

Doesn't matter if they're locked up in her apartment or not Gramn......it's songs that YOU are choosing for her to listen to.

That's the track that you want to be on.......memory evoking songs!!!

-Caren

Hmmm. make her a CD that will make her feel like crap. Nope. Doesn't sound like a good idea to me. More of a gesture.

Buy her a love songs CD instead and attach a card saying " I want to spend the rest of my life loving you. Help me do that".

If you haven't done it in the past, I don't think it's a good idea to do it at this time.