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Can anyone tell me where to go for info on this, everything I seem to find is for the OW and guidelines for her, what about us, where can we turn?
Laura
Married 5 1/2 years
2 sons 5 and 2 years
1 daughter 1 year old(h oc)
Be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a tough battle
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You can contact the Child Support Recovery Unit in your area and hope you get someone who will help you. I had to give them my hubby's social security number and all to pass thru strings....one person was helpful one day and then the next time it was NOT the same experience!
OR!
Go down to the Child Support Recovery Unit and they have a wall with all the guidelines and rules posted. My hubby and I just went down there Friday, we are choosing no contact but she instructed hubby to look at the postings about visitation......
You could also contact an attorney, or several for that matter, in your area and he can give you some advice.
Hope that helps!
Me: 27
H: 34
Married 5/8/99
*together exactly seven years...met on 5/8/98*
son: 8/2002
son: 3/2005
day world came crumbling: 4/23/05
8/6/05: DNA result is positive
for 8 year old boy from hubby's past that he didn't know existed....
Girl didn't discover it wasn't current BF's child until 2001...
then she had to go down the line with DNA testing and....
DING DING DING, we have a winner.
NC at present time
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LA, google child support guidelines and your state.
There should be an aproximate guideline for you guys to workout an estimate.
Best wishes and a hug~
Married 3-02-74
D-day 11-13-00
Recovered very well now~
N/C
Me and H both 55
1 beautiful granddaughter, a wonderful son, and daughter-in-law...(like a daughter~)
God answers all prayers in His own way...in His own time.
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From my experience there's all kinds of info on child support (found my state's through DSS) and what you may pay and legal ramifications for dead-beat Dads. Information on custody is out there also, each state treats it differently and as far as visitation, there are some places that discuss "sample visitation plans". The standard these days seems to be every other weekend, Wed nights and 2 to 4 weeks in summer, also alternating holidays. That didn't really work for us as we are dealing with an infant, so we worked out a temporary plan ourselves. Not much support out there for Dads, but some sites try. It's not pretty...take care. Stephanie
WS: 37 BS: 36 "highschool sweethearts"
married 8/98
ds: 12/96 dd: 11/99 ds: 5/02
separated 4/04
A summer '04
D-Day: 9/8/2004
recovery begins 10/04
moves back in 11/04
OC born (girl) 4/05 (Legal C 8/05)
"Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives me something to do, but it gets me nowhere."
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Speak to a laywer. A good one. Get a consultation and go from there.
Your best advocate is you.
Your best defense is a good offense.
Educate yourself, knowledge is power, remember that.
Some things are a given. Child support for example. Once that is set, the rest is in your control. Want visitation with oc? You can get it. Don't want oc around? You don't have to. You can also LEGALLY and WITH THE ADVICE of an attorney learn how to protect future assets so they are not swallowed up in child support. THIS HAS TO BE DONE LEGALLY.
Want contact with oc, but not ow? You can do that.
You are in far more control then you realize. So stand tall, and get out there and run your life the way you want.
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