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#1452915 08/16/05 03:36 PM
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First, let me say, I really appreciate ya'll taking the time to answer my other questions. It has been really helpful. I have been reading about the NC letter and wondering about it. My WH ended all communication with OW after 4th of July, I know this because of how I found out and I have been back and forth with OW until 9 days ago. He closed his email account and wouldn't answer when she calls. We had decided to call her together if she contacted me again, so far so good, haven't heard from her. I told him last night that maybe for my sake I might feel better if he sent her a NC letter. He said that she would probably contact me again after getting it, but that he would do it for me. I feel like he threw in the hearing from her if we did this because he has said he wants nothing more to do with her. I told him it might make me feel better to know that she knows he LOVES me and he CHOSE me and our marriage instead of her. I posted the last letter I got from her and she had even tried to tell me she was pregnant.....she's not and we knew that much.

Would it be worth it, sending a NC letter, even knowing I will more than likely hear from her again?


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You should definitely send an NC letter, to make it FINAL, and since your FWS is willing to do it, then I think you should.

-Caren


Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.

BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.

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