Well I'll make this short. Meeting W's EN's includes doing the finances now, which I want to do anyway, but they are a little messy at this point in time. We were supposed to pay off a cash advance today for $400 but after doing the math, realized that we would only be able to pay the minimum which was $60. So my W decided, without asking me, that it would be OK for her to buy new glasses for $300 (which she doesn't need at this time) since we weren't paying the advance off with that money. HUGE LB for me!!! She told me this over the phone while I'm at work. I am frustrated with the financial situation as it is.

Is she trying to undermind my attempts to fix our current situation? Or does she have some other issue, maybe she doesn't realize how bad it is right now or maybe she has a spending problem or maybe she doesn't care!?! ... any thoughts?

How can I NOT LB on this one and still let her know how bad it is?

^bump^

It sounds as if your W was doing the finances in the past... correct? Have you considered doing the finances together in the beginning so that you can both become familiar with the bills that you have? This would actually give you two time together at the same time as you learning the bills.

At least two EN's in one sitting.

We actually are doing them together at this time, durring the transition. We have 2 kids b-days and school supplies comming up within the next month and we had to cancel haircuts because we couldn't sfford them last week. She 'knows' we are in bad shape but maybe doesn't understand how bad?