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Good to see you Qfwfq!

Well, I keyed it into Google Earth and it doesn't take negative numbers, but when I made it east, it sure is in China.

If you leave off the minus and keep it West, it gets me there.

You have mail, SS - lots of it, LOL.

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She got the notice with the Judge's signature. She asked "how did we get here?"


The short answer: Adultery.

I wish I had come up with that as a comeback!

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Oh, and I recieved my papers today.

Done and done.

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In that case, the N45E strike, 45° SE dip can be stated simply 45,45, and everybody knows what that means!
-Qfwfq

If you say so. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <AD scratches his head>


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Hey AD. I'm the night owl tonight.

Google Earth is too cool for the room. I use it at work quite a lot. I'll post a link to some of my stuff as soon as I get it on a webpage.

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Oh, and I recieved my papers today.

Done and done.
{{{AD}}} How are you feeling friend? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />


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I'm fine, FF, other than having a cold/flu or whatever it is.

I "get" abstractions. So, I was divorced when I knew the judge should have signed the papers. Recieving them didn't make any difference. My xw is more concrete. Recieving the papers had more effect on her.

Thanks for asking.

I'm very very late for work!

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Gosh,
You guys are right,
I got a little different address on Google Earth.
37.06'27.28" N 113.33'37.73" W

2long, and AD, thanks for setting me straight.

This cut and paste stuff isn't all it's cracked up to be. That, and I'm dumber than I like to admit. Oh well, it makes you guys look good anyway.

AD,
I don't know how you are feeling, but it's gotta be hard sometimes. A trip will probably do you good.


Your daughter is so cute, I bet your time with her is special. Little girls seem to find their way into their fathers hearts early on.

Hope you get some work done (both you guys.)

SS


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Hi SS, GC, FF and anybody else who wanders in. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I'm feeling good tonight. Inexplicably. I think my cold has released it's grip. I just have a very positive attitude right now.

Unfortunatley, it's time to go to bed and I'm feeling too revved up - so I'll go clean the kitchen or something. That ought to dampi things down a bit.

SS, I'm sure you just added a minus sign inadvertantly. Anybody could do the same.

GC, sorry I didn't acknowledge your comment about how cool Google Earth is. I've been very tired the last few days and not much up to posting. Much better now.

The first evening I found Google Earth, I think I stayed up all night - til the dawn was beginning to break - just looking all over the earth at everything and anything -and nothing at all. Did you ever look at K2? It's in the middle of nowhere. I though it was in the same region as Everest - but it's way over by Pakistan. I like to tilt it down a bit and (with terraine on, of course) spin around something and just look at it.

I found the great pyramid. Just look for Giza, Egypt and pan over to the "left" i.e. West - and not far after you cross over into desert, there it is.

The Eifel tower casts a nice shadow, don't you think.

Oh, you can go on for hours, just looking at every one of your friends' houses (if they live in an area of high-res imagery).

OK, time for kitchen-cleaning!

-AD

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No, he didn't add the minus sign inadvertently. He was trying to confuzz us all. AJ wrote it down wrong, too, and we ended up WAY out in the Pacific Ocean, with a red star sitting in the middle of the blue. I had to zoom out about 5 times before I was able to confirm that we were somewhere near the international date line, in miles of water. Fortunately, that physicist son of mine was able to sort things out, and place SS in his proper location. Not only that, but when I read him the erstwhile 2long's science post, he was able to understand it perfectly. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> He certainly didn't get it from me!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> Now I can make him jealous that I'm posting on the same thread with a "famous" scientist. Are you famous, erstwhile 2long? I told him you were, so please be, OK?

Glad you're feeling better, AD--physically and mentally. Keep on swimming. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

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Oh, and I recieved my papers today.

Done and done.

-AD

Wow. Just wanted to let you know, I read your post and well..... here's an {{{{MB hug}}}.

Aloha,
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2long is famous, my kids have seen him on TV.

Actually,
You are all famous to me.

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Oh, and I recieved my papers today.

Done and done.

-AD

Wow. Just wanted to let you know, I read your post and well..... here's an {{{{MB hug}}}.

Aloha,
L.

Thanks for the hugz, Orchid. I'm really quite OK. I'm looking forward to the future - which I anticipate will be very nice, really.

I want a family, and honestly, that's not so impossible to work out - even at 47. I seem healthy (so far as I know), I'll be OK financially when "our" house is sold, and even better when I'm done paying temp. alimony. I have my freedom. Life is good, and I'm glad to be alive.

-AD


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47?!?!?!? Musta been a good year. I'm using those #s this year. Well at least for another month. LOL!!! At this stage, I think I am going to lose a year instead of gain a year. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

U R still young. At heart at the very least. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

U have a good outlook on life. Hope you don't get snatched until u r ready. Gotta watch out for my 'classmates'. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

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Hi AD -

I'm glad things are going okay for you. You can join the ranks of us newly single middle aged men. (Well, I'm ALMOST single!).

I know that you, like I, never imagined you would find yourself in this situation. But...it can certainly be liberating after so many years of putting up with the same ol' stuff of WW and OM.

Hope to see you in Atlanta.

Georgia


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Orchid,

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47?!?!?!? Musta been a good year.

Hmmm. I'll just assume this is an affirmative vote. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

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U R still young. At heart at the very least. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Parts of me are hardly used at all. LOL.

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Hope you don't get snatched until u r ready.

I'm ready!

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FGG,

"Liberating". Yes, that's the word.

But... I never wanted to "liberated" from a commited marriage and family. What I've been liberated from is a marriage to an uncommited and unfaithful wife, who also happens to have been extremely difficult to live with. I would never have divorced her because she was difficult to live with, but well... it did make it easier to accept.

I have been "intimate" with exactly one person in my life: My one and only wife. I wanted it to be "til death". I would have prefered to wear my ring forever, to be lowered into the ground with it still on my finger. It's in a drawer now.

I gave her a full chance. I could have done better, but I don't believe that I am significantly at fault in the failure of this marriage.

I can be happy alone. I can be happy with friends or at work, but...

I really did, and do, want a family. Despite the disadvantage of my age, I know it is possible. I can do it. Maybe some would say that I should "be realistic" or say that I'm being selfish or even ridiculous, that its unfair to ask a younger woman to marry me and give me children. But creating a family is my mission right now. I know there are women who want that, and for whom I'll be "good enough" - maybe even more than that. I'll make it.

-AD

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I posted this on Greycloud's thread, so tHis is a shameless cross-post - just so I can keep all my important stuff on my thread.

Hey, good people,

I just realized that I'm feeling so positive about life, that I could spend the night in the other house - at "our" house. For a long time, I felt this huge heaviness being there - but I'm rounding up my camping gear (something padded to sleep on since there is no furniture there), and heading out. I was planning to do some work over there tomorrow anyway.

I feel like I'm doing something exotic, LOL. I mean, sleeping in my other house - which is now this empty spooky place, but used to be warm (sortof) with the sounds and smells and sights of family. But, I think it's going to be OK.

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Hi AD

doing a drive by and wanted to check in on you.

I am glad you are ok though perhaps not as Ok as you would prefer.

But if you have found some peace with it all then I guess it's a good thing.

A big MB hug [[[[AD]]]]

Somehow I think XW is 'getting' it - 'consequences' - right about now. Though you'd probably have to use pinchers & hot needles to EVER get her to admit it at this time.


Life may feel as if you are constantly getting kicked on a daily basis, living is about picking yourself up each day and going on and on and on regardless.

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Pkew! Pkew! Driveby.

Hi AD. Hope yer good.

GC

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