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I only poseted here once back in May, and was hoping I wouldn't have to again, but I was very wrong. my Dday was May 20th, and since then I thought things were going well, we were happy together again, doing things together, he said things were over between them. This weekend I found an email he sent saying he couldn't stop thinking of her...so they're back again!
We had a long talk last night, he said that he has still had feeling for her this whole time. I aske if this had been a lie then, and he said no, he has been so happy with us, too. It's like when we're together things are perfect, and then he goes to work (where she works, too)and he starts thinking of her again. He basically admitted that we are both filling needs for him, just in different ways, and he just doesn't know which path to take. he says he loves us both. He thinks they're soul mates. We have 2 young children and if it weren't for them he probably would have left me already. I don't know what to do. He says she is leaving in Dec. to move away, which I'm not sure if I believe, but I'm scared he'll leave me for her before then. What do I do? Ifeel like I am satisfying his needs when he's here, but then he goes to work and it's out the window. I know he needs to stop working with her, but he says he'll still have feelings, and it would probably be worse if he didn't see her every day. How do I accept that he loves another woman? How do I get my mind and heart to move on to a place where I can accept him leaving if that's what happens? Because I think if he left me right now I would fall to pieces.
Please help me.

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Oh, please, the old soul-mate story. GAG. He needs to stop working with her. The end.

Is she married? Have you exposed the affair?

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expose to thier boss and her husband if she is married.

maybe thier boss will transfer one of them.

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No, she's not married or attactched, otherwise I would. I guess i'm just scared that if I expose to the boss he'll loose his job which will really make the OW look good. How do I get him to wake up and see that she's not his perfect dream?
Thanks for the advice, I'm just really confused

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if he loses his job...he'll find another and SHE won't work there

hey...don't you think he;ll need the stability of his family and home if he loses his job?

i'd take the risk to try to end the affair


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