dont get a break .. and ha, ha too funny..but too true

Melody - I doubt the infidels are going to be playing golf - they will more likely be rutting somewhere.

yes..she does play golf..think that is how my H got interested in the whole sport. I will attempt to do call out there..see what I can find out

oh my god Believer...that makes me sick to even fathum, didnt consider that at all...assumed they were playing golf (how foolish of me).. pretty niave, huh?

They may be, and I may be just cynical. But when WH and OW were both "missing" at the same time, they were in a motel room.

If however they are together that would be the thing to push me over the edge and expose this A..up until now, I have only reason to believe that they are still Emotional involved...I maybe jumping the gun here, but I just have this gut feeling

jh, surely you don't think this is NOT a physical affair?

I thought of hotel room, too.

I truly did believe that they arent physically involved right now..when would they have the time? Hotel Room? well she must be paying for it..he doesnt have any money..I control all money, pay all bills, deposits, I even sign and cash his check..

So you dont think that he is going to his AA meetings all the time do you?

You can call around to the motels and find out. I used to do that. I used to tell them that my brother was supposed to check in at noon, and ask if he was there yet. Every single time I called, the desk clerk let me know if he was there or not.

I honestly NEVER thought of them at a hotel room...HOLY CRAP !!!

jh, call the golf course and see if they are out there, ok?

I did a while ago..must be my post is out in cyber space somewhere w/ my response..the course said they have no way of knowing who is in what party.

well signing off for today..time to cash outta here...thanks for all your support today..

nothing really to say today...just kinda sitting on the side lines reading what everyone else is going through today..as I am having a horrible day..nothing has happened, just feeling very down today. Feeling very bad for Fredswife and what she is going through right now.

ok...I think I have been doing plan A, as I have found out about A June 2, 2003..been compassionate, caring, loving, understanding,etc..I need help w/ exposing..I KNOW I have to do this and I need your help..I really think I am ready..OW here to pick up her check (H is working today)..she has been in his office (his office is visible from public hallway) since at least 9:00 chatting...ugghh...I am furious...laughing, he he, how fricken sweet!!! I cannot take this anymore..I really need some help and guidance.

That is being very disrespectful to you. Of course they both know that you won't expose them, so why not? It is completely amazing how "entitled" they feel during an A. That shows you how much like drug addicts they are. They don't care about anything.

He knows how upset I get when I see them chatting together...so that is VERY disrespectful..OW finally left at 10:00...I am sooo angry right now..I was in the hall and he waved to me..I just went in my office, so he knows I am P.O.ed...not that it matters because it obviously doesnt change anything. He knows I am still going to be home when he gets out of work, still make his lunch for him, still let him lay on my lap and watch t.v., etc..

He sent me an email about a week or so ago..if I pasted it here would you be willing to pick it apart for me? Does it sound similar to other WS's?

Go ahead and send it. We got lots of experts here. They used to help me decipher my WH's "love" letters.

You might change the title of the thread to get their attention. There are a couple of folks here that can tell you what he is REALLY saying.

Ok..thanks a bunch

Jaded, just wanted to toss out an idea. In my experience most golf courses keep track of who is in the party. At the very least they will for sure have the name of the person who made the reservation; e.g. Mr. Jaded and partner tee off at 1:15.

Can you get a pretty good idea of their tee time and where they are playing? If so you can go to the desk, ask to have a look at the tee times page (perhaps so you can see who played that day that you might know, so you can get a recommendation or something like that), casually flip back to Mr. Jaded's supposed tee time (frequently golf courses keep it on a single page), and see if Mr. Jaded and/or Ms. OW is listed there. Plus or minus a few tee times before/after the time you were told. Try a practice run at some other golf course so you can get comfortable with it first. Just an idea.