My husband ended his EA 6 months ago, but we recently found out that the OW has left her husband. I have asked him if he has been tempted to contact her, and he admits that he has wondered if she is okay.

However, I have also found out that he has had some conversations with others that know her and what she might be going through. These people know that she was his former secretary, so give him as many details as he might want. He is the one that told me about these conversations, although I know he is not going into as much detail as he gets.

And perhaps not coincidentally, he has been angrier than he was before and seems more in withdrawal than ever.

As I am trying not to LB, I have not told him that his conversations are, in my mind, unhealthy, because he would view that as controlling. Am I over-reacting to an understandable curiosity (I have to admit that I'm nosy too)?

Sue

Me: 44
Him: 47
Married: 24 years, two teenage boys