I have been maintaining Plan B But WH seems to have forgotten that. So here is what hapened. He called last night to speak to the kids. and they did but then he asked oldest to talk to me I said no he told her is was about the check he wrote me that was bad. well I did not talk to him because usually it is an excuse to rack me over the coals so i had decided I would wait until the kids where aslepp then talk to him. So I did and he did not need to talk to me at all he just wanted to speak to me. I think he wanted to here my voice but I am only guessing. And after that I decided to send him a summary of my plan b letter of my boundries. Just so he would remember.I just don't get why he thinks that he can do what ever he wants and gets mad because i say no that isn't the way it is going to be. I made the rules and i intent to live by them if he doesn't like them then he will have to do something different. I am tired of walking on eggshells around him. but that is why I feel like a fool.

And I am beginning to enjoy my life again. We are staying busy and are involved in our church. They are like family and know what we are going through. This is funny DD11 Invited WH to church with us last week and his excuse for not going" I don't have any clean clothes" I he had said it to me I would have told him to have his OW wash him some. i am so rude at times but he would have deserved it. He is afraid to go to church cause he might get a wake up call he doesn't want.

You are NOT a fool, Joanna. One little trip up in plan B you should expect him to try again.

well I feel like it has been a big trip up because I gave in and we communicated because of the situation with the DD11 and the DD2 trip to the hosp.I guess he felt it was void because I spook to him. I didn't even want him at the hosp. someone else called him cause i wasn't going to. Then for him to bring OW to hosp and expect me to be okay with it. was stupid on his part if i would have had the restraint I would have met them in the parking lot and told them to leave. But I was afraid I would punch them out so I stayed put. And sent my MIL to inform him she was not welcome. Oh well another black mark in my book I guess