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Okay, I know I can't let her make me mad, but she DOES!
Today is my day off from school so I needed to run all my errands. Let me try and explain where I live in relation to OW/WH. I live in a small town, and don't have a Wal-Mart or any stores like that. The grocery store is quite small and expensive. My MIL and the last known place that OW/WH live is another small town but about an hour north of my town. Now the closet Wal-Mart and large grocery store to both town A and B is in the middle of the both of them. It is the only 'big' town around. The Navy base (OW/WH both have IDs) is also in this town.
Anyhow, I was driving from my town to the 'big' town to do my shopping. I was at a red light about 2 miles from Wal-Mart and I happen to see WHs SUV parked in a empty parking lot. I thought to myself 'Back in hiding again' He is not legally allowed to be with OW, so he parks his car in a parking lot and she drops him off and picks him up at his car, so they don't park at the same place and get caught.
I keep driving, go to Wal-Mart, do my shopping, and head back. I had made plans to stop and see my uncle in law on his lunch break. I do this about every few weeks and we have lunch together and talk. He is a good guy and doesn't really associate with anyone else in his family. Anyhow, I was on my way from Wal-Mart, to my uncle in laws work when I see OWs car at the red light leaving the Navy Base. I see WHs arm hanging out of his window because he is smoking. I didn't stop or anything and I kept going acting as though I hadn't seen them. I was on the main road and she base comes out onto the main road. They were turning in the same direction I was going. So I happen to get stuck (about 3 cars back) at the red light about 1/2 a mile after the base intersection. I look in my rearview mirror and I see OW/WH coming up behind me. They pulled up next to me in the lane to my right and pulled into a store. WH had rolled up his window and laid his seat way back. Does he think I am stupid? I kept going. About 2-3 miles ahead was my destination. I get to my uncle in laws work and pull in. I get out of my car and go up to the building as I see JUST OW drive by. I ignore her and keep going. UIL (uncle in law) comes out of the building to meet me, just in time to see OW drive by the other way. I didn't mention it to him, and he didn't notice. We sat down at the picnic tables (like always) and began to have lunch. OW drives by again, this time slowly and waves. I did not acknowledge her, but UIL saw her this time. I told him what had happened. Within 10 minutes, she drove by 3 more times. She had her window down, a big smile on her face, talking on her cell phone. Gee, I wonder to whom? The last time she drove by she made a point to slow WAY down and WAVE to us. :rolleye: I made a point to my UIL that I didn’t want to talk about it, or her, or WH, but that I really wish she would get a job so she could leave me alone. UIL did mention that he saw WH twice in the past week. WH apparently stopped in to both his biological father’s house (who he hasn’t talked to in years) and his UILs work to ask for money. He told UIL he needed money for gas to get to work, and told him he worked at a marina. Really? He was unemployed last week and is driving around at noontime on a Friday. If he works at a Marina, I would like some child support.
UIL made the statement that she is 'obviously jealous of me' Well I don’t know what she is, but I do know she is annoying and makes me darn angry!
Can I really not live a life without her in it, IN SOME WAY OR ANOTHER?
This is the first time that I have run into her or WH since August 17th.
H met OW- 8/3/04 while I was on vacation.
False Recovery- 9/18/04, 10/26/04, 5/11/05
H said he wants a DV and marry OW 11/7/04
Divorce final 10/27/05
Son-5yr Daughter-2 1/2yr
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Can I hate her too? Your wh is a putz, too.
Whatcha wanna bet he sent her to spy on you and UIL?
Can they BE anymore 10th grade?
- Kimmy
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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You have every reason to hate her. But with children involved you may have to deal with her to some degree for quite some time.
I do not know the entire story, but if he plans to marry her, she will be a major part of your children's lives.
Sucks on so many levels
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Oh my Gaaaawd, like Dealen-de, like, I was thinking the same thing, but then, like, you said it? Isn't that crazy? I mean, o my Gaaawd, they are Soooooo immature, i mean what is the deal...she should take a picture, like, is she from another planet, or what? And if she stopped I would say to her, like, "Yeah", and she would say, like, "OK", and then I'd say, "YEAH?", and she'd say, like, "Right", and then I'd call her a name, like hoseface or bubblebutt, but that's jsut so, like, not you Dani, and you can deal...where I, like, you know, can't...
Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance!
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Just keep stripping away the fantasy. It's that simple. As he moves more and more in that direction, lay more and more of the reality he is choosing. I'm not too sure, but, I don't think it really matters if he works or not... those are his kids and he is responsible to provide money to help them SURVIVE. In most cases, that means, yes, you do have to get a job like the rest of us adults. And guess what, supporting them also means providing them a place to live, and guess what else, since you choose to run around like a stray dog, with other stray dogs... the mother of your children will be living in that house you are helping pay for, raising your kids. And when she is ready, she will be able to start another relationship that is healthy, and then you still will be paying money in child support! Yes, those are the realities of his decisions.
Sorry, his behavior and that of the OW warrant a good 'ol fashion ping pong ball with sugar in the gas tank.
-hang in there.
9 years now ... and some days you still say grrr!
Hang in there.
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Dani,
I hope SHMI's post gave you a good laugh. Sure did for me. I'm sorry you have to deal with this psycho crap.
Dobie
Me - BS
DDay 1 (Multiple affairs while overseas) - Feb 2003
DDay 2 (AdultFriendFinder Profile) - April 2007
Seeing a counselor. I think we have him stumped.
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You are right De-D. I can bet anything that WH sent her to 'spy'. I probably scared the crap out of both of them. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> then I'd call her a name, like hoseface or bubblebutt, but that's jsut so, like, not you Dani, and you can deal...where I, like, you know, can't... Do you know her? Really.. She is both a horseface and a bubblebutt. I would like to share some photos for alls entertainment. http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/desdinova7...ova79/my_photosGo to that link...you should have fun. Click on view slideshow and be sure to read the picture comments below the picture.
H met OW- 8/3/04 while I was on vacation.
False Recovery- 9/18/04, 10/26/04, 5/11/05
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Dang! Access is denied here!
- Kimmy
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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H met OW- 8/3/04 while I was on vacation.
False Recovery- 9/18/04, 10/26/04, 5/11/05
H said he wants a DV and marry OW 11/7/04
Divorce final 10/27/05
Son-5yr Daughter-2 1/2yr
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Nah. It's gotta be caught at our firewall. Oh well!
Does her driving back and forth and waving at you constitute breaking the RO you have? Don't you have an RO out against her? I thought you did....maybe I'm hallucinating...
- Kimmy
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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ACK!!! I'm BLIND!!!!
If I have nightmares I'm going to blame you, Dani.
Me - BS
DDay 1 (Multiple affairs while overseas) - Feb 2003
DDay 2 (AdultFriendFinder Profile) - April 2007
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Praying for a miracle!!!!!!
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Is it OW? I'm dying here.....lmao!
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Dani-
Are those pics of the OW???
OMG....what the H-E-double hockey sticks did your WH do to his hair...lol.
-Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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Yes, Yes, those are all the OW! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> I have tons, but I picked a few to share <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> She is one sexy lady. When I saw her today, she had her hair cut. WH always got upset with me when I even MENTIONED cutting my hair. haha. I love her tattoo....an EMPTY banner...okay. She wanted to but WHs name in it, but she was too drunk at and the tattoo artist wouldn't continue. WH has a tattoo of a rose, with my, and the two kids name in it. If you heard her voice...the voice/picture combo is deadly. LOL The second picture...if you look closely (I know, don't blind yourself in the process) but if you look I think her butt is hanging out from under her shirt. At least it looks like a butt <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> And it isn't only his hair that he f'ed up, its his whole life!!! He looks sexy as a lady eh? BTW, he never did any of this in my presence. Yes, I have a RO against OW. The driving would have possibly violated it. I did call the officer working the case on the two charges of violation, and he documented it. He said it didn't authorize another arrest, but it is documented <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Dani
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Cool. And you have a witness (UIL) to back up that she did it multiple times.
What a kooze.
I hope you and the kids have a kickin' weekend!
- Kimmy
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This weekend I am getting the kids pictures taken and we are going to walk our land and possible cut down some trees... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> You have a great weekend too Kimmy!!! Danielle
H met OW- 8/3/04 while I was on vacation.
False Recovery- 9/18/04, 10/26/04, 5/11/05
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Oh my god I hope they do not MULTIPLY!!!!!!!!!!! Gross - they should stay together ugly=ugly..Oh girl I would laugh at the two of them...
married 21
Together 26 -
OW 2yrs, he worked with her and found secret e-mail account.The first cut is the deepest.
just found out H is a serial cheater - total cut to pieces now- saw a D lawyer today.
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whaaaaa haahaahaa...... she is butt ugly for sure.... My WH's OW is pretty ugly as well but I don't have pictures to back it up.....yet...hehe
Take care Dani.....
~Jamie~
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Me (40)
WH (39)
Married May 4,1991
4 kids S(18)D(17)D(13)S(11)
He left March 14,2005
Informed about MOW (co-worker) March 23,2005
I filed for D in June 2005
Divorce final - Sept.28,2005
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Peace is not the absence of conflict: It's that state we can deal with conflict effectively, efficiently and respectfully.
~Randolf Lowry~
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Realtor,
Thank the Lord WH got a vasectomy before he met OW. She WANTS more babies. She has 4 children, 1 is 15 and she lost parental rights when he was 3, the other three are in the states custody right now. On her yahoo profile it once said 'Adam I love you and I can't wait until we have lots of babies' I think it was Orchid that said it sounded like she was a rabbit!
WH talks about 'one day' when they 'have a lot of money' he will get a reversal. Frankly I don't see the day when they have a lot of money coming anytime soon.
WH is literally begging everyone he knows for money. I can't imagine where they are living with no money. Another campground? Since they were leaving the base many Navy Lodge and OWH is paying? He is stupid enough to do that.
This is turning into a joke....I have to laugh. What else am I to do? Cry? I did that for over a year now...
Danielle
H met OW- 8/3/04 while I was on vacation.
False Recovery- 9/18/04, 10/26/04, 5/11/05
H said he wants a DV and marry OW 11/7/04
Divorce final 10/27/05
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