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I just can't make up my mind which color!~~ I once owned an Audi A4 and that car drove so incredibly beautiful it was like a dream....The thing was extremely expensive to maintain though, and was not as reliable as I would have hoped. The Audi TT is nice, but I would rather get an A6...we'll see. Lem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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and besides, I want to know...
my husband drove a Ford Taurus SHO during his affair years...now he drives a Lincoln LS...did his risk factor drop?
And during that time I drove a Jeep Grand Cherokee....how did that affect my risk benefit ratio?
Do the cars each spouse drives affect the other?
Someone get a statistician in here dang it. Bramble, it is all a wash here for you. Essentially there is no affect either way here. The data at present only supports a mini-van as the automobile portending some protective risk benefit. A FORD taurus and Lincoln and Jeep Cherokee are not factors in any way....Now, if you want to talk about a Ford F-150....you are talking big trouble...espcecially one with a gun rack, cigarette butts in the ash tray, and any form of camoflouage wear in the truck. That subset is dangerous.........very very dangerous. I get nervous just thinking about it. Lem.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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SO I have decided to frame my OWN theory based on the concept that the American College Of Cardiology uses on Risk factors for developing Coronary Artery Disease So this is Lemonman's Framingham ? Shall we refer to it as the "Lemonmanham Study" ? I like the name alot and I mean alot. While the Framingham study and it's principal investigators were landmark pioneers in the study of Coronary Artery Disease and Myocardial Dysfunction and mortality, the Lemonmanham investigation team hope to be just as successful in the study of "infidelityology". We hope to publish guidelines that will allow relationship constituitents to assess their own and that of their partners risk for infidelity. Thank you for cooking up this name for our study team. I hope there are not legal ramifications with the "Framingham" investigators. Brit Brat? a little free consultatative help would be appreciated. Lem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Here's your first data point n=1. I was the FWW. I had none of the original list factor list. In fact I don't even own a car.
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Hey Lemonman, Is this risk factor study only about vehicles? No vehicle change. WS used to drive a limo as a job. I think he took that limo a couple of times to the OWs place. Know about at least 1 time. Hm..... When your H goes out to buy new underwear, when he never did before, now that's a tell tale sign. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> L.
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Here's your first data point n=1. I was the FWW. I had none of the original list factor list. In fact I don't even own a car. Smur: This is only a risk assessment, and does not make any guarantees in any way, shape, or form either way. Just as people who are fit and have NO cardiovascular disease risk factors (i.e hypertension, dyslipidemia, tobacco use, diabetes, etc..) get heart attacks and die do people who have no Lemonmanham traditonal risk factors have affairs. Please understand this is a risk assessment program, and nothing else. Lem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Hey Lemonman,
Is this risk factor study only about vehicles? No not at all. Please see the 1st post in the thread regarding the proposed risk factors. This is a landmark study that is evolving. We are analyxing the data as we speak. Lem. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Okay, I'm not a scientific person. So give it to me quick and dirty. I may need the risk factors in next relationship. I need to look for a guy who doesn't drive a F150 or F250, especially if it has a gun rack or anything camoflouaged, and has cigarette butts.
Also, if he bowls, it is a very bad sign.
Now what about those on viagra? I have noticed that quite a few of them fly the coop, apparently needing assurance that they are still a manly man.
Another problem is men who work with a woman. YIKES! That needs to be narrowed down a little. There must be some kind of test you can get to tell the ones at risk from the healthy ones.
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I thought of another risk factor angle. Have you thought about career choices of WS/BS? It seems there are a lot of BS on board that are care takers or service providers. People that have jobs where they give to others and do not require reciprocation. ie. nurses, teachers, homemakers and even doctors and lawyers. Just a thought <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Okay, I'm not a scientific person. So give it to me quick and dirty. I may need the risk factors in next relationship. I need to look for a guy who doesn't drive a F150 or F250, especially if it has a gun rack or anything camoflouaged, and has cigarette butts.
Also, if he bowls, it is a very bad sign.
Now what about those on viagra? I have noticed that quite a few of them fly the coop, apparently needing assurance that they are still a manly man.
Another problem is men who work with a woman. YIKES! That needs to be narrowed down a little. There must be some kind of test you can get to tell the ones at risk from the healthy ones. All good questions, and one's that I don't have the ansers to now. We have to work this all out believer. Interesting point on the Viagra? Hmmmmm, who else do I know that fits this bill? It is almost on the tip of my tongue..I hate when that happens.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Lem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Considering I live in a country where hardly anyone hunts, we don't have Nascar, we don't have most of the things you mentioned (I don't even know what some of them are) and our infidelity rates are probably on a par with yours - how does that stack up with your research.
The OM in my sitch was white collar etc. etc. and every single place I've worked over a 28 year corporate career has had infidelity in it, including where I work now, a city university.
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Ooooh, Jen, universities are almost as bad as hospitals and bars.
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But I think having an accent is a risk factor - we seem to have lots of Brits, Aussies, and NZlanders here.
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Oh, I've just looked at them again. I actually do know what they are.
No one bowls here. Not as a sport, just as a recreation occasionally.
Smoking? My husband smokes like a chimney and has never looked at another woman. The OM hated smoking with a passion.
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LMAO, Believer, I've been the only NZer here FOREVER. I did notice that there's an "NZ Girl" registered now. If having an accent is a risk factor, you're all the ones with the funny accents, not me. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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If having an accent is a risk factor, you're all the ones with the funny accents, not me. LMAO! Guess that is my excuse! I have a funny accent. My OM was blue collar, broke, a musician, talented writer (only good thing I can still say about the guy), divorced and went out and bought a "family car" to impress me.
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People that have jobs where they give to others and do not require reciprocation. ie. nurses, teachers, homemakers and even doctors and lawyers. Emphasis added. I'm a lawyer, and even I find the inclusion of lawyers in this altruistic group of occupations hilarious. Though I have done some pro-bono work, when I was with the law firm I definitely required reciprocation for every minute I even thought about a case. Beleiver - Been speaking the queen's english lately? Every single US citizen has an accent. Kiwi - maybe absent all risk factors in your country, life is so boring that boringness is a major risk factor in and of itself. I am totally just kidding about that. What about Cricket? BTW, Kiwi my wife never has found your initial thread. She was referred to it at the very onset of her journey here and just mentioned she never located it. Mr. Wondering
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Oh and how about this Dr. Sour for risk factors? My WH's current OW (mom to OC)is twice divorced, no college, no job and had 4 kids (now 5 with OC). Pretty but getting older and not exactly a brainiac. Oh and she has spent the last several years living on child support and government aid.
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when I was with the law firm I definetly required reciprocation for every minute I even thought about a case. LOL! Point taken but I'd call it compensation not reciprocation. I was thinking that lawyers represented and defended the interests of clients and did not expect the same in return.
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