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I'm ok. I come here to get a dose of reality because I know my reality is skewed.

I have no appetite today, in fact I want to vomit. sorry...


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all the "F-girls" are making great strides !!!!!

proud of all of you

FF/ Froz/ FinallyLearning

and Luna !!! OMG what a new woman you've become

OUTSTANDING

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remember

what your H really wants (although he doesn't recognize it himself)

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polygynous marriage

and unless you want this too ... you better give him crystal clear information that you will not be one of his "wives"

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and unless you want this too ... you better give him crystal clear information that you will not be one of his "wives"
I thought I had made that abundantly clear until his "proposal" last night to have everything stay "the same" post D.

Sitting back and listening sure gives you a heck of a lot more insight and information. I guess the frosty response I got from my no is a good indicator of where his heart and head really are. He does not have mine or our children's best interest at heart.


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I donno .... he's so lost .... I think he's going to wake up someday ... but who knows when

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Let's see if I got this right. He is glad he has a child with OW, but really doesn't like to be around babies. And you and the OW are "controlling" him too much. So he would like to set up a little bachelor pad in your home. And he can go boink the OW from time to time, if the baby isn't too annoying. And he has to boink her because otherwise he won't be able to see that annoying child. Poor guy.

Oh, and you can "co-mingle" your money.

And what exactly do YOU get out of this deal? I hope you laughed in his face. Like SS says - He's feather-plucking insane.

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Well in his defense it is not B, that he doesn't like to be around babies...he doesn't like the responsibilty and caretaking.

What do I get? I get to continue protecting him from his poor choices.


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EXACTLY.

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EXACTLY



Huh? I thought it was spelled EGG-ZAK-LEE! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

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Huh? I thought it was spelled EGG-ZAK-LEE!
You been talking to Pep too long there, froz! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />


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FF - So your husband' most endearing quality is that he is a warm body?

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ROTFLMAO

Ummm, was that a DJ?


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I don't know.......... Is there anything that you would miss about him - the way he is now - not the way he used to be, or could be.

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He is very good looking ....

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Good looking and warm. So was Scott Peterson.

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FF, I'm with Pep on this one, it is not about you, about his love or lack of love or caring about you or the kids.

He is LOST.

and until he truely hits some sort of bottom that forces himself to realize this AND want to change, nothing will change.

just don't enable him!! you have to let him find his bottom. it really s*cks that you and the kids have to suffer so much. but then it is all in one's perspective, you may (later) find that this was the best thing afterall.

don't get me wrong, i'm still praying for a miracle, but your WH really has to have some sort of light-bulb moment that I'm not so sure he is capable of having.

{{{{FF}}}}

(pep-thanks for the vote of confidence although i'm not so sure i want to be called an f-girl... that might freak out my H!!)

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(pep-thanks for the vote of confidence although i'm not so sure i want to be called an f-girl... that might freak out my H!!)


I thought she called us "F'ing Girls"!!!!!! I was thinking she really DID have a degree in Cussology!

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after reading this, can I stay away from being called a "P-boy"?

Just trying to head off something before it happens.

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end of the day huggs for you FF {{{{{FF}}}}}}

my meeting is over and i'm about to head out. good luck being around WH tonight. be strong. love you!!

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Thanks for the hugs, FL

We made it through our conference call with the attorney today. He said it was one of the easiest and amicable settlements he has ever written.


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