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September 28,2005 - I divorced my bestfriend. It only took a few minutes. I could not bring myself to look at my now XH. I could see out of the corner of my eyes that he was staring at me, although I don't think he was missing me... I think the moron actually was hoping for some sign of approval from me, some form of acceptance for his choice.
I held myself together until I got home.... and I cried... I cried for the end of our life together, I cried for all the dreams that are now dead.
At least I have my children, I have my home and a couple rentals... I have hopes for better days and sometime (God willing) when the time is right, I will fall in love again.
Take care,
~Jamie~
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WH (39)
Married May 4,1991
4 kids S(18)D(17)D(13)S(11)
He left March 14,2005
Informed about MOW (co-worker) March 23,2005
I filed for D in June 2005
Divorce final - Sept.28,2005
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Peace is not the absence of conflict: It's that state we can deal with conflict effectively, efficiently and respectfully.
~Randolf Lowry~
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Me-41 BS (FWS) DH-41 WS (FBS) 2DD's- 10 and 12 Married 15 years Separated for 2 years after my A Reconciled for 1 year before his A D-day for his A 8/23/05 WH moved out 9/16/05 Divorce final 1/23/07 Affair ended or month or so later My Story
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This will be coming for me soon, though thankfully, I will not have to see my husband. Even though I think I've accepted it all, I think it will still be hard.
Do something special for yourself today. I'll be thinking of you...I know it's hard.
~*~My Old Signature is too long~*~
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DS 30
DD 21
DS 15
OCDS 8
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Hi Jamie,
I don't know if I ever posted to you before but I am sorry to hear about your D.I am going to be there too soon after almost 2 years.I must say that your D came quickly after your DDay.But I hope that you will have better days ahead.I know I will not being married to a selfish adulterer anymore.And I too will have my darling girls and my beloved home.For that I feel grateful.
Much luck and good health to you and your children!
O
BW(me)40
DDay 10/11/03
Divorcing
'The Reformer'- enneagram type 1
~Let Higher Minds Prevail~
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~Life isn't complicated,we make it that way~
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((((((((Jamie))))))))
Take comfort where you can. You know you did all you could and it may seem like it is a long way away but there is a brighter future for you and your kids. Did you see the update from faithinme? I'll bump it up if I can find it.
Last edited by confused42; 09/29/05 10:36 AM.
aka-confused42
BS-45 me
WH-42
DS-14 & DD-12
together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs
"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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{{{{{{{Maingirl}}}}}}}}}}
XBW
DS16 & DS22
PLAN D: finalized!
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Oh mainegirl. I am so sorry - it is so hard. You know - maybe you will feel a sense of freedom for all the bagage he brought into your life now. HUGs to you my girl.
married 21
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OW 2yrs, he worked with her and found secret e-mail account.The first cut is the deepest.
just found out H is a serial cheater - total cut to pieces now- saw a D lawyer today.
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Thank you everyone!!
It's been almost a week and I am doing pretty good. The kids are all doing well... and that makes me feel a sense of peace.
Just since the divorce (not quite a week mind you)I have learned to change a flat tire...twice, in two days no less..lol... and tonight I get to make a trip into our local Home Depot to buy a faucet to replace the one that I accidently broke today....oops..hehe..
Seems like I'm getting a crash course in everything this week...LOL..
On the upside of things things though... I finally have a job, working in a local coffee shop...nothing that is going to bring in tons of $$ but it will get me moving in the right direction.
So- thank you again for your support and kind words.
Take care,
~Jamie~
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Me (40)
WH (39)
Married May 4,1991
4 kids S(18)D(17)D(13)S(11)
He left March 14,2005
Informed about MOW (co-worker) March 23,2005
I filed for D in June 2005
Divorce final - Sept.28,2005
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~Randolf Lowry~
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I survived Christmas... it was awesome actually.. my DS 19 and DIL gave me a wedding picture of all of us (minus the ex as he wasn't invited), it was a beautiful picture I will treasure forever.
The ex has had the kids since Tuesday.... tonight I am feeling really alone and miss them terribly..this is the longest that he has had them...it is crazy but I miss him (XH) so darn much right now.. I wish things could just be like they were (minus the online affair stuff and the PA crap)... I don't want to be alone, I don't want the headache of being a land lady... I feel overwhelmed and lonely.... naturally no-one in my life understands the pain that I still feel over this... it really sucks.... I can't talk to anyone as they would look at me as if I was crazy to still feel this way after almost a year.. but I do... my love for him went so very deep I just can't shake it..ya know? I hope that 2006 is just better all around, I can't take a whole lot more...
Sorry to whine..... but I needed to get my feelings out and I've no other place to go. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day..hopefully.
Happy New Year to everyone!!
Take care,
~Jamie~
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Me (40)
WH (39)
Married May 4,1991
4 kids S(18)D(17)D(13)S(11)
He left March 14,2005
Informed about MOW (co-worker) March 23,2005
I filed for D in June 2005
Divorce final - Sept.28,2005
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Peace is not the absence of conflict: It's that state we can deal with conflict effectively, efficiently and respectfully.
~Randolf Lowry~
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Keeping you in my prayers! You're doing awesome! You just haven't realized it yet <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Blessings,
me:37 BS; s:7;
xh:38; OW:26;eloped w/OW 1 wk after D: 12/29/03. OC born 3/17/04. Happy! Blessed to be the mother of a wonderful son..great profession..Life's good!
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I hope that 2006 is just better all around, I can't take a whole lot more... You will get better Mainegirl, you'll see. Before you lay to sleep every night ask God to heal your broken heart. He will do it while you are sleeping. Blessings, Lady
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Thankyou Peach and Ladysheep....
For the most part I'm doing good and seem to be moving ahead with my life, then out of the blue I start thinking about what was and what could have been... I loved him so much... and sadly, I still do......
~Jamie~
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Me (40)
WH (39)
Married May 4,1991
4 kids S(18)D(17)D(13)S(11)
He left March 14,2005
Informed about MOW (co-worker) March 23,2005
I filed for D in June 2005
Divorce final - Sept.28,2005
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~Randolf Lowry~
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