Another reason is H recently had an Xray of his right leg and knee and found out he had broken the fibulia and has a metal plate in that leg, his adoptive parents had no knowlede of that,neither did he till the x-ray. That leg was really hurting and he found that out when he got it checked in ER.

Angels, xmm birth mom was the same thing. He met her and she refused to give out any information about the birth father. Everything he found out about him he found out through his birth mom's sisters through email.

Well we found a govt. adoption info site and they sent us info on how to seach,some webesite adoption registary's, and how to get medical history. We asked is adoptive parent's to helpget the info. and they are going to do what they can to help us. We boought a notebook to put the info in and to help w/ the search

Bumping because this is such a good read about medical records.



*****Note from JustUss****
A Reminder!!

The reasons for posting on this forum....

Knowledge of MB concepts, sharing information, supportive, compassionate, seeking advice.

Any questions,,,email me.

JustUss2@aol.com

CLO - this board is for rebuilding marriages. If a couple decides to with hold any information they are not legally bound to release (and that includes to an interloper in their M) then that is their right to do so. If you don't like it, well it means nothing frankly. You would have had less trouble if you would have kept out of someone else's business in the first place.

Eirab and her H pay for the child insurance, her H is the biological father. That gives her and him rights to information about that child. I know it's a concept hard for you to grasp, that's apparent with the current situation you find your self in. Which is, on the receiving end of two people who rebuilt their M and left you behind.

Oh, I agree. Wouldn't you agree that this is exactly what Eibrab's H's xOW and her H are doing? Do you think that maybe they are rebuilding their M and that's why they have gone NC? (After all, NC has been shown to work well by all of the stories we read here at MB).





Oh no FCF, I think you missed the post where Eibrab stated that the OW's H is on the BC and Eibrab's H does not pay CS and he is not legally documented through the courts as the OC's father. Therefore, Eibrab's H is in no way (legally) the OC's father; although he is the biological father.



I'm Happily Married and in NC just like everyone else here! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

What part of the fact he has been established to be the bio dad and he's paying for the childs insurance do you not comprehend?

And yeah right I believe you are happily married. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

I guess you won't mind one bit when you find out your H has a kid or two on the side? You'll be bestest friends with your H's OW. That's what you all say. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> You'll hold hands and swap all kinds of important information. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />It's funny, all this in the long run,has proven my point of, how important MEDICAL HISTORY is all the way around for both the COM and OC, Thank You ladies <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />.

Do you find it funny that a woman who has a clear issue with having children who have birth defects allowed herself to get pregnant by another man?

The OW claims to need medical history of the MM to protect her OC, but how about a woman who knows HER history and blatantly ignores it?

And before you try to say it takes two to tango, as a woman we all know there are ways to safe guard pregnancy. Pills, condoms, and keeping your legs shut are three I can think of off the top of my head.

Where is any of the OW's ownership in all of this? Knowingly encroaching on someone elses M and then wanting everyone to play nice after the fact. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> It just doesn't seem to jive to me. I would expect resistance and anger if I did this to someone. What do they think is so special about them? I really don't get it.

NO,IRRISPONBILE TO SAY THE VERY LEAST <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> She should legally be made to be fixed not to have children.
IN E's case her ow is completley and totaly IRRISPONSIBLE AND IGNORANT!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

I meant "funny" as in Ironic. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Sorry, I can see how you can be confused as to what I meant though.
I'm just saying it proved my point as to how important medical history can be as to the welfare of COM and OC.

In a private email I told E that she and H are intitled to oc's medical history.
This is what I emailed to E,
I would let your H know of the medical bill and the amount it was for.It (the bill) didn't say what it was for? Is it possible for your H or you to call and find out what it IS for? I know that if we where you guys we would want to know what it was for,especailly if we where paying for the insurance. I personally have no clue what it could be 4, test or whatever, that's y we would call and find out.
I don't think your being stupid you are entitled to feel however you wish, and I would ask H nicely if he knew,kwim. Just don't yell, scream etc.

I was thinking the same thing, she should have had her tubes tied.

And I hope you don't think I was mad at your per se, I just find that some OW tend to take less ownership for the situation that they create than they should and it pisses me off. I guess the fact I am married myself changes the way I view things. Single OW tend to have a more selfish view of their involvement. They don't have as much to lose and are only looking out for them selves.

I have posted more info under other threads, but I will state, that I am not opposed to a biological child having necessary medical info from their biological parents.

I, also, have made calls to the insurance company and have been told that the charges are for occupational therapy. I will wait for more EOBs.

I have asked H. I get nothing.

Thank you all for caring. It does help.

Blessings,

Eibrab