Thanks Lady

I sent her the link to your post this morning and I believe she read it. I know she got the email because she said she just did not have time to respond.

I am still hoping and praying. She is reading a book by Charles Stanley a friend just gave her that is very good. I just read part of a chapter. She got it yesterday and finished it this morning.

Hopefully this will offer some fresh perspective on our situation. I really don't pretend to know if anything is changing, but at least the door is still open.

I am not pressuring her for anything, just trying to be open to God's leadership.

Thanks for everyones, prayers and support.

She knows what is right. It is up to her and I hope she choses for marriage.

WOL

Guys,

I know this is not a prayer board for health reasons but my wife just got a call from her GYN and she had a bad report from her pap. It shows cancer or pre-cancer cells.

She goes in later this month for a biopsy.

Please lift her up if you have a moment for this issue.

WOL

Consider it done WOL! Maybe.....just maybe.....this is a tool the Lord is using for His will and all will be fine! I will pray that it is.


WCNT

wol,

prayers for your wife.

take care

Thanks WCNTexas

I appreciate and covet your prayers and I know RLD will also. God can use all things for those that love the Lord and seek him out. "my paraphrase"

WOL

Prayers going up right now!

Thank you so much Hopeandpray

RLD and I appreciate it.

I am also praying for your family.

Prayer are going out to your family and your wife.


Hurting

Wow Waiting, how is she doing? How are you all doing? I hope she's gonna be alright.

Blessings,
Lady

Thank you guys.

UVA
HurtinginOkla
Ladysheep
Hopethisworks
WasCrushInTexas
HopeandPray

I am overwhelmed by your comfort, care and prayer support. All of you are surely sent by God.

RLD will appreciate them also.

We had pretty good weekend, but at times it was stressful. I am not sure if the lastest health issues caused some extra stress or I was worried about our progress.

I did ask about her sleeping in the other bedroom and she made it clear she is not moving into our bedroom until she is ready.

I did ask her what she is waiting on and looking for and she could not tell me. I guess I am just trying so hard at times I push too hard.

I pray and pray and pray, but I am still waiting on God. Maybe my screen name and what I just said is something I am supposed to learn from. Patience. Maybe that is the word from God that I am supposed to get from this.

WOL

Waiting, I don't want you to jump to any conclusions, and this is real hard for me to talk to you about. Only because RLD may be reading, and I don't want to cause harm to your marriage with the info that I am about to tell you.

My H has genital warts HPV (Human Papilloma Virus), which is an STD (sexually transmitted disease), which he caught from OW prostitute. HPV is also one of the leading causes of cervical cancer.

At this time I have no traces of the STD, but my H has had to go through some terrible pain have the warts frozen off.
And at this time he found another one, after the others healed and were gone. It has been a terrible reminder to himself and I of his infidelity.
HPV shows up most common in women in the form of warts and/or abnormal pap/cervical cancer.

You may want to speak with your wifes Dr. and or see the results to her tests in writing. And ask all the questions you need to.

Here is a link to some info, and on the same page there is links to other related articles.

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/cervical-cancer/AN00386
Lady

Thanks for the info Lady. As for as RLD reading my posts, I don't think she will be doing so. In fact just last week she told me she did not think it was a good idea for her personally to do so. She said she felt her personality was not built to be able to handle the "frankness of opinions" that are on the board at times.

She says she is glad I have it and supports me being on the boards because she knows it is a support group for me and a place to gather information but she says it is not for her.

Regarding the PAP and STD's. I have this comment to make. I told her I wanted us both to be tested for STD's even though she says no SF occured.

She had a test and says it is negative except for HPV which her doc says she can get from public tubs, etc.... I have not seen the test yet. They came in last week.

My wife said she had the test to prove it to me that nothing happened, but she also acknowledged that a negative report does not really rule anything out anyway.

I did ask her yesterday of OM had contact her and she told me no. She then left the house for choir practice after crying some.

I am still just praying that all this goes away. If SF occured, I would just like to know, so we can both move forward. I can imagine if it did, that is tormenting her and preventing feelings from coming back because of the secret.

Heck I even know it could have been with some OM from a few years ago that I don't even know. Who knows, I just want all this over and to be able to move foward with my wife and marriage.

WOL

wol, I would prepare yourself for the worst so you won't feel shcoked when the truth comes out.

One of the things I told my WW to help her understand that I can get over this is..

"No matter what else I find out, it won't change how I feel about you".

I'm sure that is how you feel about your W so it may help make her feel she can reveal the PA to you (if it went that far of course).

I have told her this, but I am not sure she believes me.

WOL

This I don't understand Waiting. HPV is an STD and is usually caught by gential contact. I have never heard of catching it from a public tub. If it could be caught from a public tub, we would all have it it seems.

What test did she have to prove to you nothing happened?

Lady

Tested for everything in the STD arena. Everything tested negative except the HPV which she says her GYN said could have come from me (I have never been with anyone ever) or even taking a bath in a hotel tub. ???

That is the word anyway. I would love to believe it could happen that way, and I guess it could, but I think that is very very very remote from what I have read.

If SF did occur I just hope and pray she tells me so we can move forward. I can't imagine what that would be like holding that in and not letting it out. If she did not, great, but if she did, I just want us to move on and go for a great marriage.

I forgive her and love her very much, either way, I just want to move forward.

WOL

I understand Waiting.

Did the MD tell her she has a precancerous type of HPV?

Lady

She hasn't said yet. Test are next week to tell more about it.

WOL