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Souloss

Thanks for the suggestion but she will not do a MB anything.

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BTW, my WW wants a divorce too but she's not doing anything about that. And I am still fighting...

Don't worry. Glad you could connect this way.

Thanks and you keep trying.

WOL


BS (Me) 43 WW or FWW 40 2 DS's 16 and 13 Married 21 Years D-day 9/10/2005 Exposure 9/11/2005 False NC 9/11/2005 Discovery of Contact 12/23/2005 NC (Letter written Jan 2006) Divorce Petition Filed Jan 2006 In a holding pattern. Me Still Handing in there Phil 4:13
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WOL,
I'm sorry to hear about the retreat. What does RLD say about it? Does she have a "second choice"? Where do things stand with her cancer treatments?
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Thanks SC

The Cancer treatments are wiping her out. Regarding the MC weekend she just has not shown in personal interest. I have asked her for a 2nd choice to see what her response is.

Good to hear from you.

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BS (Me) 43 WW or FWW 40 2 DS's 16 and 13 Married 21 Years D-day 9/10/2005 Exposure 9/11/2005 False NC 9/11/2005 Discovery of Contact 12/23/2005 NC (Letter written Jan 2006) Divorce Petition Filed Jan 2006 In a holding pattern. Me Still Handing in there Phil 4:13
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Hi WOL,

I have an idea. Does RDL like spas? You know... massage... facial... pedicure... manicure. Could you afford/manage to send her to a spa for a day or two after she finishes her treatments and is feeling a little stronger? I get the feeling that she is wound-up soooooo tightly, that she doesn't even know how to relax or let her guard down... especially around you. (I just checked out the MB photo album for the first time yesterday, and felt as though I could actually SEE her TENSION in the photo). A day or two to RELAX around total strangers -- nobody to impress... put up a front around... take care of (except herself) might do her a world of good. My advice: give here some time to recover from the treatments... send her away for a little R&R... then go back to work on the M.

I also hope you're taking care of yourself!!!

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Hi all,

I wanted to update everyone at MB. I have not fallen off the face of the earth but I did take a break away from Mb for awhile.

RLD and I are still in the same state. She has dropped the divorce petition but the reason is less than positive. Her feelings according to her have not changed.

I fear we are in the process of proceding as I cannot go much longer in this state of mind.

Regarding her health, that has improved alot. She is cancer free and doing well, so that is a praise report.

I wish I had better news but that is all I have at the moment.

WOL


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WOL, good to hear from you again and that fact that RLD is cancer free.

I can empathize with your situation right now. Are you looking at Plan B some time in the near future? That should give you some relief from this ongoing saga.

I'm almost there and I can't wait. I know that sounds weird but you must feel the same way I'm sure.

What are your plans?


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I have mentioned a LS to her which I guess would be my Plan B but she will have no part of that according to her. I have even asked her to leave and she will not do that either.

I fear Plan D is what is right around the corner unless a miracle from God occurs. To tell you the truth I have been at this so long my tank is on fumes. My love tank anyway. I feel love for her more out of obligation at this point.

Of course if she were to offer any type of affection, advance, love etc.... to me that meter would jump I am sure but we would still have a very long way to go.

We see things completely different from one another. She sees the problem one way and I see it different.

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Why won't she have any part of a LSA?


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Don't know. Probably some advice she got from someone, a friend her old attorney. I really don't know for sure but she is very clear. A LS is nothing she will ahve anything to do with.

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