Thanks TT- I did not sleep weel -up at 4:30 am. H got upp with me and we had a long talk. More to come later. We had alot happen here yesterday. The area we lived in was flooded in NH. Wehave children there and the phone was ringing all day. Friends were needed to be ck'd on ect. Then his job called last night they are on strike. H went to work this am as he left the union a couple of months ago. He only has 3 yrs left before retirement - down her ehe could be fired if he does not go to work. Pension is our biggest concern. We talked about Ow a little. I think he heard me when I told him his deceit is killing our M. That he needs to stop justifying his actions and stay away from her. Or take me along. I would gadly go to any business functions. We shall continue tonight. If he slips up again. I do not know what I shall do maybe plan B. It is his lying that he needs to work on. He said he does not want to loose me that he loves me very much. Well the proof will be in the puddin won't it.
I thought about going to her home and have changed my mind. If her H said they are selling and moving away. H said he told him himself. I know he knows about their EA. Moving them away from her family will be hard for her as she is close to her kids and grandchildren. To bad for her she will have to drive 8hrs to see them. But that is what she gets for her actions. Plus they will not afford the nice home they have here where they are going. Makes my day. I hope she is unhappy.

((( Realtor ))) I am so glad that you sound much better today. I believe these A s take a very long time to heal from. Just keep your eyes, ears and intuition open at all times. (kinda crumby to have to live like this, huh ?)

Best regards to you - Car

yeah this stinks. Feels like you have a disease that is hard to cure.

This is just great he told me he quit the Union for finacial reasons for us and now he joined back up and is on strike as of now. No money will be coming in and he just had to buy that new truck in August. How am I going to stretch this budget to get buy for a month. No closings yet and business is slow. I feel like banging my head against the wall. What is wrong with him -he says one thing and does another. He used the $3,000.00 I had saved a the down payment on this truck. I am numb doesn'y he ever think???? Yes its only always about HIM.

I was just thinking about you. Sounds like he is in a downward spiral...getting ready to crash.

What does he say about OW...will they be walking the picket line together. (her coming out of retirement for support)

You didn't co-sign with him did you?

Kay the loan is in my name only -dam it.

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If the loan is in your name, sell the d*mn thing, Realtor. protect your good name. If he's not working right now, he doesn't need transporation anyway.

I know it is hard to sell a brand new car. My husband did the same thing during his first affair, then lost his job, and we tried to sell the car, but there were no takers. The car was repossessed and that has dogged him ever since, credit-wise. I understand how you feel in this position. But try to sell the thing if you can!

~ Snow

I have the money to pay for this for 3 months.
I am sick of him acting independently. It is like he is single. I am selling my motorcycle. That will pay all my bills for 4 months. I told him this last night. I also said I am paying ahead on all our utilities. Plus the car insurance. I am owed money from doing all the managment on FIL estate not tons but enough. I will use this for food.

I want joint decisions in our M. Not this independent behavior. We need to discuss things. I am just about done with this M. I told him to get another job. I don't care if he sweeps the streets.

I know this seems harsh, but sell the truck. Separate your finances from his in order to protect what you have. Don't wait on him to do the right thing. Do what you must do. When he gets back on his feet, he can go get his own lease on his own truck. Once I did this, my husband knew I was serious, and he needed to see that I was ready to do whatever it took to shelter my name from all of his assiness. It was the kick he needed (and, BTW, he didn't blame me one bit!).

~ Snow

I have told him our fiances can handle one month and no more. I have set my boundry and if he does not support me in this I will be flying home to my Mohter's home. I have alot packed from last year. It will take me no more than 1 hr to get my things and leave. I am sick of his behavior. If he wants to act single he can be single I am going to the office for 6 days a week. I will make more and be fine.