Hurtin-

It's time to stand up, no matter how beaten down you feel, and start telling your story to every lawyer, every woman's shelter, and refuse to let you and your children starve.

DO NOT TALK TO HIM - he's looking for humiliation and to grind your face into the dirt. DO NOT GIVE HIM ANY MORE SATISFACTION.

Tell his friends and co-workers he's forcing his children into starvation. Tell every banker, every creditor, etc.

Become like a pit bull collection agent yourself and use every means at your disposal (legal) to force spousal and child support.

You've been given this advice before, but told us there's nothing out there that will help you. For a woman who wants to be helpless, that's a fact. For a woman who's angry, fed up, and empowered, there's no such thing as no resources.

They're out there. You just have to be willing to go past the first "no" to ask, who do you recommend I see in my situation - I have had no income since ______ date - at what point will legal aid help me?

Keep asking. Become as the woman in the Bible who kept asking the unrighteous judge for support, and because she wearied him, he caved in.

I agree with Kayly. Time to stand up.

He is abandoning you and the children and that is illegal.

What happened when you went to Social Services and applied for Food Stamps?

I would think they would go after him and begin to garnish his wages. That is what would happen in my state....

DO NOT TALK TO HIM...

He does want you to beg him.

YUCK!!!!

Can't you get a para-legal or something? Call every woman lawyer in town. There is bound to be one that has been royally screwed over by her spouse. Maybe you should try the ones that are devoutly Christian. Lots of attorneys do pro bono (free) work. You are in a desperate situation with a man who really has "done you wrong". You need to pull some heartstrings.

Is there a university in your town or nearby? Maybe you can get a student to do it for you. They need practice.

Don't let the lack of $$ stop you from protecting yourself and your children. Sell the stupid tools. Get a receipt or any documentation you need. WH has cut you off without any money. You have to support yourself. You have gotten a job but have urgent needs that you have to do something about. No court is going to see it any other way.

Take care of yourself!

orchid,

To be honest we have no other accounts. We were the family who lived paycheck to paycheck... We don't really have any assets and to be honest nothing worth selling.... I am not making excuses its the truth. I was out looking at WH's tools yesterday and a lot of them are in bad shape due to him and the boys leaving them laying around and have gotten rusty and stuff. So probably not much worth in them either...

Everything we have is not worth much. I have no expensive jewlry or furniture. This new accoubnt he has does not have my name on it so I can't get to it.

I do have a call in to a lawyer my friend recommended but I can't talk to him until Monday.... I am praying he will help me. In a way I wish WH would file not that I want that but at least it would give me a legal recourse for money.....

I have tried family for money but none of them can help as they are all pretty finanacially strapped as well.....

I am at a lose as what to do now ...

What about the District Attorney's Office??

I never thought of that mimi....

I have talked to several women lawyers and none of them will do anything.... I swear everyone I have talked to wants money up front... They all feel bad for me but won't help....

Social Services another big joke..... Yeah they will help me with 289.00 a month and then they want me to turn over any other money I get to them... Now why would I take 289.00 a month from them and then turn over any other money I get.... I make more than that at work..... Believe me I went there and that the response I got .... I told them i make that much and more by myself....

Well I am beginning to think that I should just give up on my marriage now. I do believe he is truly done now.

I don't know if I can get past this myself. It would take a lot for me to forgive this kind of treatment. I do love him but can I ever trust him again or have faith in him...

If he is trying to get me to hate him it won't take much more for me to get there now.... Maybe this is the person he will be for the rest of his life.... Maybe this is really who he was all these years and something triggered it to come out....

he must really hate me to be able to be like this.

Hurting,

You won't lose your internet service or will you...?

Do you think your H would at least pay the bills. Does he have the bills in his keeping or do you have them?

Love, Lady

Your WH will do anything for attention, only now he's gone to far.

lady,

if I don't pay the internet soon I may lose it....

I get all the bills they come to the house..... But he said last week to DD since he does not live here none of them are his responsibility ..... They are mine and hers.... Thats all I w ant the money for is the bills and he feels since he does not use the utilities they are not his... thast about all the bills we have except for car and house insurance... And he says he is taking his truck off the insurance and getting his own so the car insurance is mine to .... He truly feels no resposibilty to any of it .... He knows how much money I am making and he knows what the bills run and he knows I don't make enough to cover them.... But he just does not seem to care...

Your right Lady he has gone way to far.... I don't know now if I can ever get past this ....

I really don't know if I could ever live with him again... The hurt is now way to deep......

I could get past the betrayl but can i get past the fact he has cut us off finacially and is making us suffer so...

I know I was not perfect but I never did anything that deserved this nor did my children.... How can he hate us so much?????

He is responsible for all bills Hurting!!

I know Lady but he does not see it that way..... And without the law telling him that he won't pay them..... I can tell him that all day long but he won't listen....


This gets even better DD just called out there and the answering machine came on.... It say Hi you have reached ####### and myself, my mom or WH are not here please leave a message...... They now have his name on the answering machine ......

This is crazy ...... I must be a fool to think he will ever have guilt or want to come home.....

I just hope you can get into court on a "emergency basis".
It that possible?

I don't see how without being able to file something ..... I am praying so hard that this attormey I talk to monday will help me .....

Do you think maybe I should write him a letter and let him know he is resposible and tell him the law is on my side?

surly he an't be that stupid to think he can walk out and not be respnsible for anything?

I don't know....this is concerning money, so you can contact him...maybe through a third party???

Did your DD leave a message when she called?

No .... she was shocked by the answering machine.... Well one thing for sure he is not hiding living there....

Seems they really think they have a future dosn't it.... I am just in shock here.... I really was stupid enough to think I could save this marriage....

Is DD helping with the bills?

I'm not sure... but I think you could get Emergency Food Stamps at SS until you get on your feet financially.
They cannot make you pay them back.
Financial Aide, I'm not sure because you have a job now.