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Good.
You work tonight, right??
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Take care Hurting ---- I'm off to bed.
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Nope not worlking tonight.....
Good night Kim .... sweet dreams...
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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Dear HiOK, {{{hugz}}} Get some rest. U have been through a lot these past few days. Maybe the OW's hormones are raging and she needs a shot. U know, like a rabies shot! LOL!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> L.
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LOL Orchid maybe your right ...
I am of to bed now I am worn out......
Take care
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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A stick in the window track is as good as a lock. Get a broomstick and measure it so that it fits the window track that is exposed for the sliding window to move along. Then slip that into the track and no more opening that window - you may want to do it to the ones that have locks too.
Cafe Plan B link http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2182650&page=1 The ? that made recovery possible: "Which lovebuster do I do the most that hurts the worst"? The statement that signaled my personal recovery and the turning point in our marriage recovery: "I don't need to be married that badly!" If you're interested in saving your relationship, you'll work on it when it's convenient. If you're committed, you'll accept no excuses.
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kayla,
Thats exactlly what I did last night..... Plus I put little alarms on them so if they slide up I will hear it when sleeping.
Found out this morning through SIL that WH is trying to dig up dirt on me and try to prove me an unfit mother. Well he better dig hard. I am not perfect but have done nothing to warrent this. So I guess I better be prepared seems he is going to fight dirty.
WH called my cell this morning and left a VM. He found out the money was taken from my purse and told me to kick DD out and file charges. Funny thing is he called from his new cell phone now i do have his number. He didn't want DD to give it to me but yet he calls me from it.
Well I have no plans to do that. He is trying to run my life as always.
He seems to me is he is trying to turn the kids against me to lie for him. This is turning real ugly now....
How am I going to stop this crap .
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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Hurting - I think this is all about you being in Plan B. He is needing to engage you, whether by saying you are an unfit mother, breaking into your home, stealing your car, or taking your pets. He is addicted to you and needs some interaction. Please stay very dark.
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Agree very much with believer. He is trying very hard to get back into control. He is furious that H is defending herself.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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mel,
I don't know anymore. WH just called my DD and wanted my SSN. I think he is wanting to fill out his paper work for the D.
I am so confused right now I don't know what to think.
I do know he did not get served yesterday. He was not there when the process server came. They will try again next weekend.... I will probably be served befroe him at this rate....
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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I believe he wants control, that I don't doubt.
But I do believe he is going to file this week. Guess the gig is up.....
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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Stay dark. Don't let him get his Hurting fix. Sooner or later, he will be taking out his anger on the OW.
He is free now to be with her, so why aren't they enjoying the weekend together? He is obsessed with you.
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I am staying dark believer don't worry.
He called his mom and asked her if she thought I would talk to him. She said no WH I don't think she will. He said ok then I will leave her a VM. I have not listened to it yet. DD did but I won't.... MIL said when he called her and asked he was not angry sounding he was like sounding a little low. Who knows. SIL did tell him he needs not to play dirty because it will backfire on him. She told him BS is not playing you dirty she only did what she had to do because you won't help like your suppose to. So try and be fair to her....
Yeah he's obessed alright, obsessed with filing for the D.
Believer lets face it this is going to happen. I am not giving up hope but I believe it will go all the way before he sees the truth if he ever does.
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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Hi Hurting,
Wow, I can't believe he has made all of the phone calls already, since he got his new cell phone. He may have had a hard time doing that with OW's phone. He has already made 3 calls or more concerning you since he got the phone!!
Don't give him any info, not even SS #. You cannot help him with his paperwork. If he wants anything, his lawyer should go through your lawyer. Is your SS# on the LS filing paperwork anywhere? If it is he could get it there.
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Lady,
I believe it is on there. What does it matter anymore anyway. he is going to do this and i might as well accept it.
I don't think he is going to change his mind at all...
My MIL called me again and says to me .... You know I havd given up all hope that he would come home, but she said something keeps nagging at her now that everything will be ok. She says BS I don't know what it is but something keeps telling me he is coming home. She says I have not felt this for weeks but somehow the feeling has come back. I said well I will only believe it when I see it. She said well I know we can't live on my feelings but I have a good feeling.
Well at least he has calmed down for now..... For that I am happy.... He was mad becasue someone took my money he gave me but I don't see him trying to give me more.
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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Hurting - It took my WH 4 months of Plan B before he thought he wanted to come home. I LB'd him like crazy though. There are many surprises here. Don't give up hope.
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I'm not giving up hope believer. I just believe he is going to file for the divorce.
I know things can still work out at some point but I don't want to go through a D and then he decide he was wrong. I know that may never happen as well.
I just have to be prepared for this. I know its going to happen and just need to be able to handle it....
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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just remain resiliant. remember he's not in right mind...but you will remain to be...that is key.
refuse to allow yourself to get mental!
choose to think and do that before you ever react.
It's not over till YOU say it's over!
me:37 BS; s:7;
xh:38; OW:26;eloped w/OW 1 wk after D: 12/29/03. OC born 3/17/04. Happy! Blessed to be the mother of a wonderful son..great profession..Life's good!
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Stick with Plan B as Dark as ever Hurting. You are so strong now. Focus on you.
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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I am doing all of those things ... staying dark and focusing on myself....
I am not reacting to anything he says or does right now. I am trying to stay strong....
I almost answerwed when he called but I resisted.... I have not even listened to the VM because I know hearing his voice no matter what the VM says will set me backwards....
A little part of me wants to call and say please don't do this but I know I would be shooting myself in the foot if I do that.....
Its taking all I have not to crumble right now.... I am fighting this hard.....
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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