lady,

He actually was on his way to Lewisville tonight. So I guess thats what triggered it.

I like you try to look deep and read something into everything.

I have got to learn to stop doing that. Like Believer and all the others say its his actions that count not his words... I will admit that it made me feel good knowing he was thinking of our life together though. But gezzzzz I think of it often myself and it changes nothing so what makes me think it change anything for him....

I have no idea what happened at the funeral or they we recieved. I have talked to no one who was there and to be honest I won't ask because its best I don't know. If they were treated nice I definately don't want to know... So its best I don't ask ....

Yeah!!!! If he wants to reminince (spelling?), keep it to himself, or NC OW then you'll listen to everything he has to say....right!

Lady

Right on Lady!!!!!!!!!!!

I do find it funny though how he wants DD to tell me Happy Grandparents Day .. Heck that was weeks ago I think ..... I sure did'nt say anything back .... I just smiled.... So he did not get a Happy GPD from me ....

I should have been smart though and said my best memory of Lewisville was how happy and in love we were at that time... Oh well live and learn ......

No more answers to any questions for him.....

Sorry Hurting - I'm surprised that people here don't see a more sinister motivation for a walk down memory lane. This man is an alien abductee and is capable of much evil.

This is what I see as his primary motivation for using your daughter one more time...

Think about it - just a few days ago, he was going to do character assassination on you - open threat???

Well, what better way than to gather information proving that you lost track of a child... leading to a construed, convaluted conclusion that you are an unfit mother....

Your daughter needs to be warned emphatically right now that the game is over. NO MORE TALKING ABOUT YOUR HUSBAND!! She must never allow him to pump you through her for information he can use against you. She needs to understand that though the physical form and voice sound like her dad, this is no longer her dad and he may never come back.

Your daughter needs a therapist she can talk to, but she needs to understand conclusively your husband has declared open war on you - and she should have seen it when he has the big brass ones to show up to a dear friend's funeral with a wh*re!

The most important thing I have learned from this site is to look ONLY at ACTIONS. I've been doing this for 3 years. My WH talked and talked, wrote tons of letters about how much he loved me. But his ACTIONS didn't match.

As a broken-hearted BS, I listened too much to his words.

kayla,

You may be right about that. What happen in Lewisville was over 20 yrs ago. It happened in the middle of the night when DS got out of bed and was looking for his dad who was working. Nothing ever came out of it.

So I don't think something that happen 20 yrs ago will hold much merrit in a court of law. But your right he could be looking for things, to be honest he has nothing to find.

But I will be more careful.....

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I hear ya Believer......

DD on the phone with WH now ......

Wow he sure is calling her a lot lately!!

Hi Hurting,
I have been lurking on your post and wanted to respond about your w/h coming up with little things like grandma day and memories.
Being married to my xwh for the past 26 years, I feel like I can say even though he might act like he is not interested in reconcilliation, I think that he is tied to you emotionally. Its hard not to be tied to a person that you have spent the last 24 years without having strong bonds. I think he has always thought that you were a sure thing and he could go have his little affair and you would be waiting for him, when and if he decides he has had enough of o/w. He is now starting to worry that his emotional rock is starting to get a life of her own that doesn't include him and he is realizing just how dependent he is on you being there forever for him. All this is helping to clear the fog, and hopefully he will finally see what he has to lose, and that you will not be there forever and will find a life without him if he doesn't come around.

Best of luck in Plan B!!!

K.D.'s Heartbreak

she just got off the phone .....


He was asking her questions to ask me...... I didn't answer them at all....


He wanted to know how much more weight I have lost? DD told him mom looks good all her clothes are falling off.... She said mom told me last week she has lost like 60 lbs.... I just sat here and said nothing... She said dad says wow I bet she is looking good.....

He used to say to me all the time before all this happen if I wanted to wrestle and get a butt whipping???? That was always a running joke for SF in front of other people.. So don't freak out thinking he means something bad... So he wanted her to ask me that as well.....

I have no clue what he is up to.

You're right, Lady. He is still very attached to his family. That is why Hurting has to be very strong, and very dark. He needs to realize that he is on the verge of losing everything.

I made the mistake of letting WH drag it out forever. In the end, I completely lost all respect for him, and then all my love.

K.D.

What you say makes a lot of sense to me... I have said the same thing how can you just forget someone you have lived with for so long.

Your right I do believe he always thought I was a sure thing because I took his crumbs for so long. I believe once i filed these LS papers he realized I meant business. It sure made him mad for someone who wanted out of this marriage.

Well only time will tell.... thank you for your thoughts I appreciate them.... I still have lots of hope....

Huh?? I don't get it either. Why is he saying all this stuff to DD???

Lady,

I just ran to the store and was thinking about this.
Could be a lot of reasons.

1. He is trying to get his fix.

2. He is seeing if I will talk to him.

3. He could be seeing were my feelings are right now.

4. He may be being nice to see if he can get me to backdown...

5. He could be trying to get me say something he can use against me

There are so many things he could be doing... I just have to keep my wits about me and be careful ...

It woould be great if its some of the fog lifting but I don't think thats it.... Just gonna have to keep my eyes and ears open.....

You know he needs to stop and follow the plan B rules! He's like a child trying to cross the boundary line. He's trying to slip in everywhere he can. It's almost hilarious to see that happening tonight! You're doing good.

Lady

lady,

I did do well this time.... No information crossed my lips.

Just a smile as I walked out of the room to DD. I heard her tell him mom just got that funny smile on her face and walked away....

He sure does need to follow the rules.... Maybe he needs to be reminded of the rules.... lol

Gotta get to bed. Goodnight Hurting. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I'm glad I can go to bed with a smile tonight.

Good night Lady

Sweet Dreams ....

Hurting:

Strategizing here with you:



You are still too connected to this, Hurting...

YOU SHOULD BE GIVING THE MESSAGE THAT YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY DISINTERESTED IN HIM AND HIS TELEPHONE CONVERSATIONS WITH YOUR DAUGHTER...

Hurting, this IS NOT DARKNESS..and is likely prolonging the A....

I am really concerned about the GAMES that your WH is playing and involving your DD in them...

His conversations with her should focus only on his relationship with HER because you are IN DARKNESS...

She is DISRESPECTING you, Hurting...She is ENABLING her F in his A...



Why does it matter? All that matters is that he continues to be involved in an affair with the OW...

I agree with Believer.. Actions speak louder than words..My FWH just told me this the other day..."Go by my actions..not by what I am saying...."