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I am wide awake here. In Plan B since 10-11. Have done really well & not called WH. I know he will be going to work soon & I so want to pick up the phone and call him.
I want to let him know I still love him and want him back home. I want to find out why he hasn't made arrangements to see DS.
This really is not my life right now. I want to talk to him so badly.
Help!!!!
Kimberly
D-Day May 14th
DS age 6
Married 13 years
Plan B 10-11-05
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
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Don't call, Kim!!! It will give him power over you and ruin your credibility in your resolve for no contact. You will get over this feeling!!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Good girl in posting this instead of doing it!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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MelodyLane -
I hate this Plan. I hate this M. I hate this pain. I just want it to be over.
How can someone have hope in a situation like this??
WH is going to be missing DS's first Fall Festival tomorrow. WH's letter said that he didn't want to be cut of from DS. It appears that WH is making no effort to see DS. I am not going to let him try to make "same day" arrangements to see him either.
I want to call him. I feel so in the dark that I don't know what he is doing.
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
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I know. I so wish there was something I could say to make it better. I hope he does call Kim, but please don't call him. You have leverage and control over the situation as long as you don't. You hand that leverage over to him if you call. THAT is not good for DS!
What do you plan on doing tomorrow?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I'm taking DS to his Fall Festival tomorrow morning. Coming back home & will probably do a bit of cleaning....
I'm cooking a pot of chili tomorrow afternoon & then watching a football game tomorrow night.
I have got to make more friends. I have really cut myself off from other people over the years.
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
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You are willingly watching a football game?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I know how you feel about football!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
I fell in love with this team when my brother started going to college there & then I went myself. I was part of the marching band for 4 years there - went to EVERY game!! Some of the best memories of my life!!
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
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yum, chili sounds good! Any plans on going to church Sunday?
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I do have plans to attend church - Charlie & Sara invited me to attend with them. Or I might go to one of the other churches I have been visiting(they are a bit closer)
You are up late too!?? It's 1:30 AM where you are. When do you rest???
I'm glad you are up though. I am feeling better. Calmer.
Thanks so much Melody.
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
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Is your WH moving in with Charlie and Sara? Is there a chance that your H would show up at church?
Yes, I am up too late. I have been out of town on business all week and just got home tonight. I am so happy to be home [and on my desktop instead of my laptop] that I am not sleepy!
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Kim, you did really good coming here and posting instead of calling him. You sbould be so proud of yourself and you will appreciate that you didn't cave in the morning!
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The other night Charlie said that WH might stay in a hotel for another week.......I haven't spoken with Charlie today so I don't know what's going on. There is no indication that WH has taken any more clothes or washed any since last Friday.
WH is not a church going man. Plus he almost always works until noon on Sundays. I don't believe I will run into him.
Coming home after a trip away is always nice. You get to sleep in your own bed!!!
I am actually beginning to feel tired myself......I washed a load of clothes so will put those in the dryer & perhaps go on upstairs.
Melody thank you, thank you. You helped me get through picking up that phone.
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
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Night, Kim, I enjoyed the chat. I am off to bed myself. God Bless. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Kim, you did really good coming here and posting instead of calling him. You sbould be so proud of yourself and you will appreciate that you didn't cave in the morning! I know I'll feel better in the morning. I knew my friends here would help me with the urge!! Am planning on taking my camera & getting lots of pictures of DS at his first Fall Festival. We will go & have lots of fun....I'll try to meet some of WH's classmates parents. Have a good night & get some rest!!
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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