My husband and I met, married 1 yr later, and had a baby 9 months after that. Baby #2 is on the way. I was working full time, now 30 hrs, have Bachelors' degree and in late 30's. I pay the mortgage and all the bills. Husband has business with brother and used to have a substantial income before we met. Now they are always in the red and bring home maybe 100-200 a month. That is fine, except the partner's wife works a little part time job and keeps money for her own things. How are they paying their mortgage etc., they also have two children in school. They take vacations...drive and stay at friends houses, seem to have lots of money for fertility...wife gave up on having more children now. I don't get it. When I mention it to hubby he says it is none of our business how they pay for their stuff. The thing is when we are desperate for money, hubby finds it. When I was on maternity leave for 3 months, hubby paid. As soon as I went back, back in the red. He says it was just coincidental. However they are going to court to pay a substantial amount for his car that has almost been in repo. They found that money as well, he says it was luck how they were able to finagle it temporarily. They hope the business creditors they are not paying due to this will hold out. So, when I see them spending money for stuff, my wheels start spinning. Why do we have no money for stuff! Am I being unreasonable/blind/selfish? Thank you so much for any feedback !