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what a story...

sorry for her poor choices.

and they bare-ly (has to add that one in) made it past the 2 year affair relationship mark.

Most affair relationships are stupid and begin both stupidly and end stupidly.

cheating begats cheating begats cheating.

how was i NOT surprised it would end like that?

I do beieve you'll have to worry with what happens with when a WS returns...think some point I will have to worry wtih that one also.

so much for the fantasy turning into real life huh?

glad the kids are doing great!

and do find out their whereabouts.

You go nsr!

I knew you'd do fine.

we both made it over to other side...and yea, I am over on divorced/dating also.

welcome back here and there.


me:37 BS; s:7; xh:38; OW:26;eloped w/OW 1 wk after D: 12/29/03. OC born 3/17/04. Happy! Blessed to be the mother of a wonderful son..great profession..Life's good!
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NSR,

I found it!!! The WS dictionary lives!!!! It's being used in the advertising business in Asia!! LOL!!

U got mail. with the proof. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

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...as promised...

About the kids:
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Stepson (now 22 years old)
Long story short, I had to ask him to leave (end of August)
...refuses to get a job
...lied about having one (umpteen times)
...all I ask is for him to get a part-time position
......for gas/insurance/his extra meals/etc. & for a future resume
...still refuses... and now living with his mom (my xW)

He is attemptng to live of the 15K his mother finally gave him
...from the 35K in SS benefits he should of gotten
......from his (now deceased) biological father (story unto itself)
...she asked me to take out $35K from our joint 401K (to pay off son)
......and once again he got short changed.
...trust (xW) is hard to come by.

I PUSH... for him to come back home...
...but only with a job. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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Son (now 16 1/2)
He's doing better in HS...
...but if he fails one more subject... he'll have to stay back a year.
Otherwise a great kid...
...loves me... loves his mom(my xW)... everyone.
...close to God and is hooked on religious music... plays organ at church <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I hope this conflict(mom splitting with original OM)
...doesn't put any pressure on him.

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Daughter (now 13 2/3)

She's doing very well in school (next year HS)
She's still in dance(ballet,jazz etc.)
...now the studio is under new management
...and hopefully her last year dance-mates will come back after cheerleading
She's 'boy crazy'... I guess that's common
...but I have to monitor her Internet(chat) activity
......a few older boys were chatting inappropriately...
.........one I had to force a 'NO MORE CONTACT'
.............or else I'd have to get the authorities involved.
.........we talked <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
...she also has written to herself a letter about a sexual fantasy
......I worry
......I wonder how much her mother whould know
......It's tough being a single parent with a child of the opposite gender
......I have a sister who helps though... good to have a support system!
......we talked <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
......If anyone once to offer advice... I'm humble... and willing to listen!
Life goes on.

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About me (age unknown)

I've gotten very involved in church... and faith
... that's what has kept me mostly away from MB.
Lot's of faith building and understanding and learning...
...supported by the fact I do 'religious education' for the young ones.
My faith has an impact on all my thoughts (especially re: xW)...
...that is the perspective my future writting will come from.

Employment wise---
...all is well (programmer)
...it's a little bit far (25 miles each way)
...but I like it, and the people too
...everyone knows the story of money (never enough)

Healthwise---
...taking care of myself (type-2 diabetes)
......BTW: my 'inability' to manage diabetes was x's sole grounds for divorce
...........so much for '...in sickness and in health'
...it's stabilizing
...went through a 3 week bout of 'food poisioning' in Sept.
......lost 22 lbs...(down to below high school weight)
......even lower the infidelity diet! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
......but I've recovered

xW...
...this will be the focus of more postings.

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Thanks for the interest everyone has shown.

Love to all

Jim/NSR <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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My DD's chat with a friend...

"my mom broke up with her bf (they lived 2 gether for 6 yrs) and she aleady moved on 2 this new guy who is so annoying and loud and obnoxious" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

...greener grass?... I think not!

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Hi Jim,

Good to see the update. Laughing about your daughter's chat stuff...

Poptarts and bacon---an MB culinary classic!!

God love you! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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Jim,
You sound good, all things considered.

What's going in inside your head these days?

SS


I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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I'm going very well..

except this morning I got up...
...and before going into the shower noticed these "spots"...
...and like my son's who is just getting over it...

...chicken pox! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

My daugther had it about 2 weeks ago...
My son's are just starting to 'crust over'...
...mine are all new...
...so I'm out of comission for at least a few days.

Oh well...
... I will survive.

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<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Oh no! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Can't believe you never had these as a kid.

Well, you should know what to do by now for the itching. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Susan


Money can buy you a fine dog, but only love can make him wag his tail. ~ Kinky Friedman
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You poor guy! I thought chicken pox was a kids disease... your house full of teens/adults got it? Yipes.

I LOL at your "age unknown" reference. That's what I'm going by these days, too. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

And you must be the only person who would notice an extra "_" in my moniker. As in: new_beginning is now new__beginning. LOL You're battin' 1000 on the smile-o- meter today. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Good to hear from you, Jim, and to see how your kids are doing. I always had so much respect for you as a step-dad (and as a person, of course).

Looking forward to reading your next installment about your ex-wife. (I think. I'm actually a little scared to see what's happened with her.)

ed: I wrote OW instead of ex-wife. Had to fix that!

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NSR:

Ah YES! The WS who's a nudist!

I knew I remembered you, but was afraid I'd get you confused with another MBer, but no worries anymore!

Good 2 hear you're doing well.

-ol' 2long

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xW still is at the camp...
...she split with her BF (OM at the time of the A)...
......he stayes in the 'mobile home' they shared on the camp premises...
......she got a trailer home in the same camp.
so... they still 'see'<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> each other... but the relationship seems to have gone south...
...you never know though!

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About the 'chicken pox'...
...adults do get it... called 'shingles'...
...and can be very serious (even life threatening)

I did have it in my early childhood ~4 years old

But it is (obviously) possible to get it again as an adult...
...usually a modified viral strain.
I have to stay out of work until the sores heal!
I hope it won't take too long. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

hey... I have the forum! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Jim

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DIL had Shingles in Sept. Nearly drove her mad.

Yes, at least you have the forum.

Grin.

SS


I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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pepsi... coke... (whatever)
B w a h a h a h a h a h a h a h a ! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
No one ever forgets that, do they?

Mr. NSR, glad to see you around!!


Prayers & God Bless!
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Chris...

It's great to see you around... still posting! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I've just started (came back) a few days ago.

Saw your post in the "Divorced" forum.

Your X and my X... they've perfected the 'narcissism dance.' <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Jim

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Hi Jim,

It has been a long time. Take good care of yourself with the chicken pox/shingles that is serious stuff. I am glad you are doing well, and it is good to hear that the kids are working through all of that mess.

I look forward to your presence on this site again. You have a lot to offer.

God Bless,

JL

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<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
JIM!!!!!
Do I remember you???

Do WS love us but find they aren't IN live with us??


Did Sheba or Lostva write long (but VERY WISE posts) LOL!!???

Does PT need cooking lessons????

WOW... I've stayed in contact with Lori and we've talked about you a few times..

So good to see you back posting... I'm back because I'm back where I started with my 2nd... I mean first.... I mean W I mean WS.... OH forget it... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />... it's too hard to figure what she is anymore....other than back with her OM again.... (read my post in Divorced/Divorcing.. for an update...

I wonder if your WS will try and work things out with you now... or if you even want to... I should be around for a while so I will support whatever decision you make....


I'm glad about your commitment to the Lord... and your teaching there.... I taught the kids (you may rememeber) and that was the light in my life...
Now... I have TWO awesome grandsons...that are the light of my life (and I in their's)

Raising a Daughter... well.. I can help a little there... it's tough though!! I'll email you some thoughts later..
Gotta go for now... welcome back... this place is different now... not as much support for Plan "A"... everyone tells the newbies to go to B in weeks!! They need you here.... you can help..


GOOD LUCK AND PRAYERS FRANK
P.S.

And BTW how rich would we be if we could bottle the "Infidelity Diet!!

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Hi, Jim!

Frank told me you were here so I had to pop in just to see you.

It's good to hear your update and that you're doing well. I've thought of you often over these years.

Ah, well, better go fix some dinner. (Wanna know what it's NOT? LOL)

Luv ya!

Lori


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JL, Frank and Lori,

Always a pleasure to see, and hear from you.

I'll be posting more often, as time permits.

Keep in touch.

Jim <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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More updates...

Besides splitting up with the OM (after 6+ years of living together... seems unlikely they will reconcile...),

I now find out she(XW) has been out of work since June...
...and hasn't found anything yet.

She'll still be staying at the out-of-state camp(>110 miles from me and kids) when the kids aren't with her...
...but...
according to my stepson (spoke to him just minutes ago)...
...she's looking to find a new trailer(mobile home) park near the kids on those weekends when she has EOW visiting rights! She can't afford the rent on the old apartment & the camp on NO salary forever!

Wow...
...I figured something had to happen.

I'm not sure what's going to happen with my stepson...
...maybe he'll get a job too... and help her with the up-keep of the new in-state trailer park.

BTW: one of 2 parks she's looking at... is in a town adjacent to where we live!<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Interesting... maybe upsetting!<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Jim

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Well then, God nudged you in the right direction for support in a rather odd timely fashion, ya think?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

If I recall, you and I live in relative close proximity....there isn't ANY place around here you can live without salary for long...

Trust God to take care of this!


~ Pain is a given, misery is optional ~
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