Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum
This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at
mbrestored@gmail.com
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2005
Posts: 3
Junior Member
|
|
Junior Member
Joined: Oct 2005
Posts: 3 |
I need some help with constructing a Plan B letter. My WH has been living with the OW for more than four months now, but has continued a sexual and emotional relationship with me. I need him to know that I'm tired of being played and if this is the life he's chosen then here are the 'rules and consequences'.
We have a six month old daughter together. I'm not sure if complete NC is going to be possible because of her age. I'm trying to get him to only see her on set days and times so I can arrange for someone else to be here with her.
I've read what Plan B/Plan A is; but, in the information it doesn't really give details or assistance in what exactly it is.
Some examples would be great!
TIA,
sunkissed
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Nov 2004
Posts: 1,719
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Nov 2004
Posts: 1,719 |
There are plan B leters you can read here. I am not sure where to send you. Basically it is to try and presserve any love you have left for him and set your boundries. Start by writing a letter and posting it here and others will help you here. It is supposed to be a letter saying how you love him but asking for some distance from him. Such as setting someone else up to relay maessage between the 2 of you. It involves going dark and having no communication.
married 21
Together 26 -
OW 2yrs, he worked with her and found secret e-mail account.The first cut is the deepest.
just found out H is a serial cheater - total cut to pieces now- saw a D lawyer today.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2000
Posts: 35,996
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Oct 2000
Posts: 35,996 |
see thread by Spacecase titled
Sample Plan B Letters
I just bumped it up for you ....
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Nov 2004
Posts: 1,719
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Nov 2004
Posts: 1,719 |
Thanks Pep -can always count on you...
married 21
Together 26 -
OW 2yrs, he worked with her and found secret e-mail account.The first cut is the deepest.
just found out H is a serial cheater - total cut to pieces now- saw a D lawyer today.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2005
Posts: 3
Junior Member
|
|
Junior Member
Joined: Oct 2005
Posts: 3 |
Thanks for bumping that for me~ I've bookmarked it and am working through it now.
TIA,
sunkissed
Me - BS
WH - lost in his own misery, confused
us - DD - six months (planned pregnancy, not an accident)
Living with OW since 6/05, back and forth three times since then - continues sexual and emotional R with me (dragging me along I suppose)
A since 6/03
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jun 2005
Posts: 224
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jun 2005
Posts: 224 |
Sun - Plan B may be premature for you. I'm not sure what your sitch is, but be sure to do a good Plan A BEFORE Plan B. Stung
|
|
|
|
0 members (),
147
guests, and
46
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,659
Posts2,323,613
Members72,372
| |
Most Online9,682
May 13th, 2026
|
|
|
|
|
|
