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i got served on tuesday. I have a court date on tuesady. I went and saw a lawyer and the only prob she said i have is child support.Said i might end up pay 600 a month. I cant afford that much and have a apt and make my bills. And i am not the one that wants to get divorced. Why am i getting screwed
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Child support is generally a fixed percentage of your income. How are you getting screwed?
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You are obligated to support your child as is the child's mother. I realize that you have bills to pay but they should be no different than any other parents bills.
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i have to survive on 3 paychecks and she gets 5 per month now she makes the same as me and i have to pay her 600 a month she has no rent or child care cost. with all my bills i have to now move to a cheaper place cause i cant afford rent. he dosent even stay with her but 2 nights a week
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If your incomes are comparable and you don't want to pay child support then offer equal shared custody of your child.
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s350sxx,
I don't know what state you live in, but if she only has custody of the child 2 out of 7 days, she should probably be paying you child support.
Now, there are a bunch of ways you can go about this. You can request that she pay all the daycare expenses, for example. If you do indeed have the child most of the time, and your lawyer thinks you'll have to pay $600 support, I suggest you get a second legal opinion. Even if you have to spend $5,000 to get that opinion, if it saves you $7,200 in the first year, you've come out ahead.
Divorced.
2 Girls
Remarried 10/11/08
Widowed 11/5/08
Remarrying 12/17/15
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