I posted this on Recovery, where a small group of BW's of Sex/Relationship Addicts has had some ongoing off and on discussions about the particular quirks and bends of that journey. Thought I would copy it here as well, in the event anyone might find it of use. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Since it appears that there is at least a small group posting (and likely a much larger group lurking) who are going through personal and/or marriage recovery with a recovering (or not) sex/relationship addict, I thought I would post some links that were very helpful to me over the last few years, or that others highly recommended.

Feel free to add your own at will. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Books:
(I should note that these are not books "about" codependency or sexual addiction. You can look up those by topic on Amazon and follow whatever recommendations you find there. These are other books that profoundly effected me and particularly my healing journey.

They are not typical "self-help" books--in fact, "Till We Have Faces" isn't even non-fiction. But the key element of healing for me was replacing the Addict as my object of devotion and source of worth with a deep and intimate relationship with the Lover of my Soul, and these books were very good for that.

The Life of the Beloved, by Henri Nouwen

The Sacred Romance by John Eldredge and Brent Curtis

Captivating by John and Stasi Eldredge

Till We Have Faces - by C.S. Lewis

Fresh Brewed Life and Keeping a Princess Heart (in a Not-so-fairytale World) both by Nicole Johnson

Links:

Recovery Nation - has a GREAT partner's workshop, forum and healing journals area with continuous input from the coaches. Thanks to Topie.

Surviving The Lie - Brief but beautiful and well worth a look. Thanks to Lilybelle.

iprodigals - They used to have a really good matrix that broke down both the addict and the partner's journey. Still some very good materials.