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Thanks confused, I will check it out! Organizing will get me to focus on something else too! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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As a Christian, I think you might like this author, who I've seen in person a half dozen times: Emily Barnes . She's wonderful. Let me know what you think. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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I will check it out, thanks. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Be sure to follow my link. There's another Emily Barnes who is not the right one, though I'm sure she's a very nice person. LOL
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FF. Take a breath, Hon. No 2x4s here. YOu are doing just fine. Weekends are [email]cr@p[/email] sometimes. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> THank book is a godsend. TOugh but I am re-reading it againa and agian. You have mail, <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
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D final Dec31/07
Long hard road & at peace now
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Hey FAA! Yes, weekends are very rough indeed. Poor DD is in my room pouting because her dad is still not home. When I called him he acted like a jerk to show off for his buddy. Ugh..called me a b*tch. I think is the first time he has ever done something like that to me. I hung up. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
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Okay where is he? Can I kick some a$$ for you? Men! WS. GRRR!!! Point me at him. It makes me wild when DD is hurt. HOw is DS talking this?
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Long hard road & at peace now
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Ugh..called me a b*tch. I think is the first time he has ever done something like that to me. I hung up. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> That is totally unacceptable. (and I don't mean you hanging up) I would be tempted to pack him a small bag and put it outside where he parks his car.
Money can buy you a fine dog, but only love can make him wag his tail.
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I'm with Susan. Totally unacceptable!
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He called and apologized for the name calling. Came home and apologized to DD for not keeping his word. He told me he will be out of here as soon as he finds a place. That is fine with me. I am not angry but hurt very much for DD. I have lived with the let downs for years, she hasn't.
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Hi Faithful !!
I read the title of this thread and I thought about it.
You do everything.
You do the cleaning, and the meals.
Doctors visits? All of them.
Baths - each and every time.
Shopping,
empty trash
Pick up toys.
Were I to list it all, it would fill pages.
Now you worry about a second job.
I see also where you want to simplify, be home more.
My wish is that STBX would get hit for Child support, and alimony. That would be simpler for you.
I don't have a solution for you, but I acknowledge your great sacrifices in trying to keep your family going. I believe God can show you how to make it work.
When you pray, tell him your troubles, and ask him to teach you what to do. Believe you will get help. Watch for it, listen for it, and it will come.
I admire your willingness to do the work. You are not a quitter. I notice your posts don't say "I can't do this," but they ask for help so you CAN do it. That tells me a lot about who, and what you are. It makes me happy for your DD, and your DS - they need a mom like you.
You already know it won't be easy. You are getting ready for it. Believe you'll get help as needed. Count on it. Expect it - then go and work with all your might, and reap the rewards for being a "faithful follower."
God be with you.
SS
I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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You do everything.
You do the cleaning, and the meals.
Doctors visits? All of them.
Baths - each and every time.
Shopping,
empty trash
Pick up toys. Yes, SS you are correct. My wish is that STBX would get hit for Child support, and alimony. That would be simpler for you.
I don't have a solution for you, but I acknowledge your great sacrifices in trying to keep your family going. I believe God can show you how to make it work. He is obligated to pay 1/2 the mortgage and property taxes. He makes far less than I and in our state he could easily demand support from me. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> He will have little left after paying CS to OW for OC. Thank you, SS for reminding to give this over to God. He has always provided and I am sure will continue to do so. I am trying so hard to get my ducks in a row before all this happens. I have a budget template I am using and that is what left me discouraged and worried I may need to get a second job. WH already works two jobs.
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"Welll I am not in the mood to be beat up today!"
Then how about a hug? It's all I have today myself.
(((((FF)))))
"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out
And it bites off your snout
Thats a moray ~DS
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Thanks for the hug, Appy. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> You ok?
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Good Morning Faithful !!!
Oh Wait, it's afternoon now, even in your time zone.
Well, anyway, greetings and salutations !
How are you?
Really - How are you really?
SS
I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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How are you?
Really - How are you really? SS, better today than yesterday. Thanks. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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I found myself nearly begging this selfish "man" to work on our marriage Here's a plan starter .... "begging" is no longer allowed AT ALL under any circumstances it is detrimental to your self worth and your dignity plus it does not work take an oath "I will not beg"
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I told my stbx that he MUST have a plan for where he will live and be out right after Christmas December 26th? December 27th? be VERY specific "YOU are NOT living here after (date)" and if he claims has nowhere to stay ... that's fine ... he can make that choice to be unprepared
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He agreed and I WILL put his stuff out on the porch upon the deadline if he does not move. At that point I will change the locks. Do not tell him of your change-the-locks plan ... or his stuff out on the porch plan either no talk just keep your word no more discussions ... no reason to discuss feelings of any sort ... just actions do you see why that is important for you?
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take an oath
"I will not beg" I have my right hand up " I will not beg"
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