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#1520897 11/13/05 05:33 PM
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I am feeling really [censored] today. Divorce will be final soon & it's only been 6 months in all from
DDAY. Oh yeah, WH is STILL not sure what he wants. He loves me & misses me. Anyway, since WH is living with OW that's where he has to bring my son. Legally, I can do nothing. I have been feeling really edgy this weekend. Want to run & scream & shed my skin. My son [10]is back & I can hardly look at him. I feel like he just cheated on me too. The thought of him staying in this ******'s house while she smiles and fixes him meals, etc. is just killing me. I'm angry and sad and irritable and hurt beyond belief. I want to kill WH & OW and I want to throw things and I want to curl up in a ball in a corner and cry my heart out. I feel such hatred in my heart for this ******. And I am a person that usually doesn't have a bad word to say about anybody. I can find the good in almost all. Anyway, just ranting and raving. Any response would be appreciated.

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Me/BS 48
Married 16 yrs/together 23; 1 child
Dday 4/05; WH "needed space" and left 5/05
WH Filed D papers 6/05 - Divorce final 12/05
WH moved in with OW 11/05; moved out OW 1/06
12/06 His 3rd and strongest attempt at reconcilliation (I believe OW still in picture)
2/07 Affair over, begging me to take him back - it's too late.
WH has tried numerous times to reconcile.
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So sorry. So sorry DS has to go over there, and there's nothing you can do about it. That is awful, unbelievable. How is it in the best interest of a child to meet or spend time with his Dad's girlfriend before his parents are even divorced? Ugh.

(((((((((((Shattered)))))))))))))


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All I can offer are hugs {{{{{Shattered}}}}}

I say go in a room or outside and scream and then enjoy your son.

He deserves your love and you deserve his. Watch a movie or have some ice cream.

All the best to you.


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Shattered, I am so sorry. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> I would be angry too if my kids spent time with OW. Hug your DS and make some fun time with him. {{shattered}}


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shattered,

You might want to edit the title of your thread. Words like that have a way of coming back to haunt you when a WS has things like this to use in a custody petition.

It has been known to happen on this site.

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Thank you all for your loving thoughts. I feel better already. This weekend was just such a turning point. I feel like this woman stole my life. I just feel very disposable today. AFter I posted here, I realized I should have posted on my most recent thread so people could follow my sitch. The thread is "Advice quick, divorcing; WS not sure what he wants now". I also took your advice and changed the title of this thread, although our custody arrangement is already final. I have physical custody and Dad has him every other weekend and whenever else he can. I know it is in my son's best interests to spend as much time with his dad as he can.


I lost my internet connection for the first two weeks of this month. It was awful. I don't post a lot but I read here all the time. I wanted to know what was going on with Gramm. Is his plan B working? What about Paradise Blue? She must be back from Europe. Surely her WS must have seen the light while she was gone. When I got back online, I sadly learned that Paradise's dad had died and Notsouneak had a miscarriage. It's funny how I feel somehow attached to people that don't even know I exist. All I can say is this board has been a lifesaver for me in a very rough period of my life. My heart and my prayers go out to all of you as well.


Me/BS 48
Married 16 yrs/together 23; 1 child
Dday 4/05; WH "needed space" and left 5/05
WH Filed D papers 6/05 - Divorce final 12/05
WH moved in with OW 11/05; moved out OW 1/06
12/06 His 3rd and strongest attempt at reconcilliation (I believe OW still in picture)
2/07 Affair over, begging me to take him back - it's too late.
WH has tried numerous times to reconcile.

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