We reached an agreement last night around 6. We went to court today, hashed out a few things they'd agreed to last night <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> then went before the judge. I was there for 4 hours & there were lots of emotions but mostly just hoping things stayed as we agreed.

A few moments of sadness thinking about what a shame it is that ex in waiting wanted a new life so badly. I was asked a question by my attorney about whether we had decided the divorce was best for the kids due to the fact the marriage had "irretrievably" broken down. The answer was so clearly no but the expected answer is yes because we'd reached an agreement. It was hard to answer yes to that.

All was approved, no more returning to court. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Oh...the sort of divorced part. We won't be officially divorced until Jan. 2nd because we will be filing jointly for 2005 so we can split the refund.

So, a 21 year marriage tosed aside. What a shame when some help, some effort, some understanding & a huge dose of willingness & work would likely have saved my marriage & spared my boys from having to go through this.

On to my new life. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I am sorry to hear all of that Nams.


More truer words could never be spoken. I'm sure your new life will be fulfilling with the wisdom you have gained.

Nams,
The finality of it is just sad, isn't it...?
I'm sorry...that's a long investment. Time will ease it, and I hope you find happiness.
On the other hand...now you can check out butts too!
(see other thread...sorry, poor taste, but kinda funny, doncha think...?) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

nams...

I am sorry to hear this...how sad that your H never gave it a real chance. I trust that your new life will be full and happy--

Hugs--

Kathi

nams, Same with me. 20+ years of marriage tossed in the garbage pale. My ex was not willing to do one little thing to try and save it. A sad situation, but sadder in the long run for her, I believe. At least my conscious is clear and I know I did the right thing. So do my kids.