Well, I dont know if this is no contact from me also. I didnt ask, but I hope not. Right now I just want him to take them up on their offer, and somehow have to negotiate an end to this affair. His parents live in the same city where I and WH will be moving to, so I guess that is good. WH and I will not be working in the same hospital. WH does not start work until August 1, and he is done with his current fellowship on June 30. So, they want him to spend that 1 month off bwetween jobs with them. Hope that makes sense.

here is the latest: not much
Yesterday WH called really last night, and I thought it was to tell me more of the same. But, he didn't bring up any of the D talk or A talk. My MIL spoke with him yesterday before he called me, and he told her the guilt was overwhelming, and that he was falling apart. She didnt cut him any slack, though. She really let him have it,...

It's the rollercoaster, Stella.

You won the last battle. There are more to come but don't give up the fight.

He wanted you to make it easy for him..to assuage his guilt.

It's a good thing that he is suffering.

Hi guys. Last night I received an anonymous email from someone who currently is lives in the city where my WH is doing his fellowship. It said that everyone there now knew of the A, and that many had lost respect for my H, the OW, and their relationship, and that I had many people there that supported me, even though most of them do not know me. I think my WH has access to my email, b/c last night he hinted at it, and there is no way he could know about unless he read it. Anyway, he seems to be becoming depressed. He said he doesn't eat, sleep, and said he doesnt know what it is like to be happy anymore. He said he cant even ecape at work. What really upset me is that he said he felt like killing himself. It freaked me out, but he said he would never do it. He said he has lost his friends and family b/c of his A. I didnt say much, just kind of listened, as there isnt much to say, except that everyone still cared about him.

Stella:

You are seeing the effects of EXPOSURE.

Remember, the more that HE SUFFERS, THE BETTER..

I still think that he wants you to relieve him from his suffering..He wants YOU to give up. He wants you to say, "I understand. You love her. You don't love me"..so that he won't feel so guilty.

My H did the same stuff, calling me weeping, saying "Let me go", etc.

Don't fall for his crap...

I finally finished my residency, and all of my training is done. I start my new job as a dermatologist next month, which will be my first real job!

I have moved into a beautiful home, which my WH and I had purchased few months ago. As far as WH is concerned, he has become more cold and heartless. I talk to him only few times a week, just to talk to about bills, etc. He is always angry at me for something lately...He will be moving down here this weekend, but not into our home. He has rented a small place about a 1 mile away from me. Everything seems so retalitory. He is angry that I am living in the house we purchased, b/c he had told OW that the house was for them. I was absolutely furious when I found that out. To think my credit was used to purchase the house and my name on the deed was so he and OW could live there was the lowest thing I ever imagined. I moved in quickly, and that absoultey infuriated him, so that same day he found a small home to rent. OW is not moving down...not yet, anyway. Who knows if she will. I dont know anything about his plans, as he doesnt seem to know them either. His relationship with his family continues to suffer as well. His parents came and visited me and see the new home this past weekend, and that really made his blood pressure rise. Last night he called and told me I ruined his life....blah, blah, blah. It doesnt bother me anymore, like it used to, which is rather comforting. No more sleepless nights, and constant worrying.

As far as me, I am okay. I am excited about being in a new city, and starting my my career. I only wish I had my friends from home, and hope this is a new beginning for me. I finally got intenet today, and thought I would check in with my MB friends, who always seem to be there.

CONGRATULATIONS ON COMPLETING YOUR TRAINING and HAVE FUN decorating YOUR HOME!!

Now you can decorate it ALL GIRLY if you choose!!!

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Well my WH moved down into a small rental home. Yesterday, I called him to borrow his truck so I could buy some things I cant fit into my car. It turned into arguing match again. He said he was going to come over and tell me it is over. I said "whatever." I didnt think he would, but he did. I had not seen him in over a month, As soon as he walked in, he was met with a huge welcoming party consisting of our 2 dogs. He had not seen the house we purchased since he first saw it, and was curious, and took a tour of it, and made some suggestion about remodeling it. He sat on the couch, and I was just waiting for the huge talk he had come over for. But, it never happened. He left after an hour of small talk.

Then this morning, he called and said he was comming to mow the lawn. I was in absolute shock. He has been such an *** lately that I had believed he did hate me. He came inside for a few minutes after mowing the lawn for some water. We talked for a few minutes, and then he said he had to go meet a friend for lunch. He said he would finish with the edging tomorrow. But, it was so AWKWARD, and weird for me, probably for him too.

I had given up on this man, and just cant believe he is being nice to ME. I am trying not to get my hopes up....I have disappointed myself so many times.

Hmmmmmm...

Love it! Love it!

Continue to let him pursue...

Look for a quote that I'll share with you once I get home that fits this perfectly...

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Hey mimi and others,
Here is an update....alot of progress from a few months ago, but I am soo confused!

My WH has be comming by the house on a daily basis, and calls frequently. Although, he is distant, he seems to be warming up . He still has a hard time looking me in the eyes. And whenever I call him, he actually picks up (which is soo nice). But, today he came by, and we really struggled to feel comfortable. He left shortly afterward, and said he would call later. I just feel so pressured. I know I shouldn't but I do. I have no idea what is going with his affair. I dont know what he wants, and I dont know if he knows what he wants. All I know is that she is not here. I want to have a talk, but I feel like it should come from him. I am so confused.