I don't know about all of you - but everytime I;'ve gone through this I have lost weight. The pound count to this morning is 27 pounds since Dec 2. I ahve NEVER last weight through the holidays.

I have no appetite, food tasts like saw dust and I take a few bites and I am full. The ache in my stomach makes me nauseous, and when really upset - I throw up. My doctor is getting concerned. My blood chems are all a little out of whack - still trying to take my vitamins - but doindg that on an empty stomach is hard.

Everyone at work is noticing and I ahve started getting lectures from teh docs. Only one seems ot understand - he lost 50 when he went through his divorce. But I am starting to get concerned about the weight loss. And the funny thing is - I TEACH people how to eat when they go through chemo and I ahve all the same problesm and yet can't do what I have told so many to do.

Any ideas -

Do you have any family around that can make you eat? During the worst parts of my sister's affair I would shop for light things I thought she'd eat and then stand over her and make her eat them. I gave her a lot of juices, anything to get calories down her. I'd give you more suggestions of some foods, but it sounds as if you already know all that.

I know the feeling. I lost about 20 pounds after STBX left, weight I couldn't afford to lose.

The only thing I could make myself eat was soup. Campbell's Chunky soups, the creamy ones like Turkey Pot Pie, Chicken and Dumpling, etc., have pretty good nutritional value and more calories than the clear-broth soups.

I also made a lot of fruit smoothies in the blender. I mixed up fresh or frozen fruit, yogurt, fruit juice, and ice.

I still had trouble eating these things, but I told myself I had to stay strong for my kids (my own and my students). It seemed to help if I made myself eat for someone else, for some reason.

I haven't gained all the weight back, and I still find my clothes getting too loose when I am under stress (which happens a lot going through the big D, of course).

{{{{Jan}}}}

I used products like Ensure and then went on anti-d meds during the worst of it. I had lost lots of weight also.
Small meals,crackers, chicken broth...build as you can. Meditation,or an observation exercise helps. Maybe try a yoga class.

Smoothies are a good idea. I also could eat yogurt.
You can use kefir as a base for smoothies too.

Ahhhhh The affair diet...... I was the same way and still am to some point. I have lot almost 75 lbs since June.

Gone from a size 18-20 to a size 12... Now I feel better by losing the weight but for a long time I was weak and sick a lot because of it.

I now eat at least one good meal a day and its sometimes hard to do especially when something has happen to stress me even more. But I found taking vitamins and drinking healthy things has made a difference for me. I am getting better about eating but its still a struggle sometimes...

Glad I lost the weight I needed to but so sad for the reason why......

Jan, you are probably in ketosis, which is why you aren't hungry. If you start eating some carby, starchy foods with your protein and fat, your appetite should come back. Maybe something high carb like macaroni/cheese, potato salad, high GI fruits with some nice healthy eggs, cheese, fish or beef. Sugar free yogurt is also a very good carb. [Blue Bunny Lite 85 is my favorite] Eating high carb foods used to always keep me in a state of starvation just from the blood sugar spikes. I would yo yo out of the kitchen all night. Maybe it will bring your appetite back?

Yeah, I have lost 18 pounds since the middle of Nov. I am with you. My parents are freaked. My mom has started coming over and fixing me food or inviting me over or out to make me eat. I am just nauseus all the time.

People at work are noticing too. It is weird to have people trying to shove food down your face, but they are right. This is not good for us.

Start working out, going for walks, something to wear your body out. It will force you to sleep, and that combined with the other advice you've been given here should help a lot.

I remember this well...I lost 28lbs in three weeks. Started walking again...was covering 10+ miles/day, and getting < 4hours of sleep/night.

It took me nearly a year to regain that weight.

I don't know the answer, but I know exactly how you are feeling...The only thing I can seem to choke down is toast when my stomach gets so empty I have to eat something or get sick. I tried to eat a piece of pizza yesterday and could barely force myself to swallow. My stomach hurt afterward so I didn't eat anything else the rest of the day...I wouldn't be upset at losing a few pounds, but I feel weak and crappy..I am forcing myself to drink water though....sorry you're going through this...

My affair diet was a weight gain of 40 pounds. I have eaten a lot of chocolate. It seems to be calming. Maybe you could try chocolate?
Cherished

I have gone from a siz 18-20 in pants and now my size 10's are to big getting size 8 this wkend. I make myself eat my homemdae chicken soup. I can mange that and it does not make me sick. I get acid stomach with any spicey food or italian food -don't even enjoy a slice of pizza anymore. Me the one who ate all spicey foods. No more tacos. When we dine out H orders and I eat a bit off of his polate. Why waste the money. Or I order an app and H eats most of it. I may much on peanut butter -a big hit for me. I also get unsugared pepermints which gets rid of acid stomach. Drink water by the gallons and take a vitamin each am.

I got to the point where I was actually collapsing from lack of food and sleep. So, I forced myself to eat.

Food tasted like dust in my dry mouth. So I ate lots of yogurt and apple sauce. I pretty much lived off of it for 2 months. Sometimes a glass of chocalate milk would help.
Soups are easy to swallow also.

You will find, the more you get back to your regular eating habits, the better you will feel.

Hang in there and God Bless.

Thanks guys - I am doing better. I actually at a whole dinner tonight. My co-workers have been standing over me - glad I ahve their support - and yours!

Jan

Jan,

Great job! You have to force yourself to eat because it will make you feel somewhat better.

Keith