My WH moved out on Christmas night...dday was 6/21/05, NC since 7/8/05--we moved to new state (my hometown)...Have had MC since Sept but no changes from H, tension had been building due to H's lack of effort and my growing resentment for this--I felt so low went on anti-ds bc I could not handle the daily anger and resentment from H--so it all came to a head on Christmas, there was an ugly scene and he moved out...Has been suggested I do a "plan B" letter, even though OW isn't in the picture, to "shake H out of his fog"--I used the letter fool4love wrote as my template and will leave in H's car today....I have told him to only contact me via family or email, it is too hard to see him or talk on the phone with him...our boys will visit him this
Fri-Sat--H is still in hotel for now...I did let him know I love him, still want to build a new and better M with him....I am devastated but do feel some relief to not have to "deal" with him daily, y'know?....I will not initiate any D procedures--we haven't been here 6 mos and have to wait 2 mos b4 we could even file (I saw a lawyer in Oct)....I have copies of all our financial records so will know if H moves $ around--though we have both promised not to...

Has anyone had success with separation/Plan B?? I just need some hope, I guess, though I know I will be OK in the long run, regardless of what happens.....

Thanks!
In Pain

Dear In Pain,
I am so sorry for your pain.

This forum is not as busy. You might want to post in General Questions for more help.

I am not an expert on the Plans, but here are some on the forum who are.

blessings

You WILL be okay either way, regardless of what happens!

I had success during our separation; filing for the Big D got WH off the fence in about a week. I know it doesn't always work that way, and the OW in our situation was a real nut, but she was also pregnant which pulled him in her direction. Regardless, he took some major steps to save the marriage after I filed for D.

Anything can happen, do not give up hope!

MSA