Good luck, intexas. Hope the baby's not too big! I gave birth to a bowling ball (9-9), and it wasn't nearly as big as your second.

Good luck, Intexas! Sure you'll be "a heck of a woman"! My mother used to say that when giving birth, every woman becomes the bravest woman in the world; despite whatever fear she feels, she still becomes the bravest woman in the world. My ma is gone gone, but I STILL don't dare disagree with her!

He passed away approx 2 years ago. I used to see him at lunch all the time. He hung out at a BBQ place in PHX called Honey Bears. Their motto was " You don't need no teeth to eat our meat" Great food.
Anyway I'm sure he is missed.

How about not answering him? You can tell the hospital staff that he is NOT welcome to visit you.

The hospital staff is trained and will know how to handle this.

I wish you good luck and speedy recovery for you and your little ones.

I hope you get the peace that is your due when the little one arrives.

Stay Strong!

Well, where's our newest Texas boy?

We have a new Texan! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> How is ya, intexas?

Hey there,
I thought about you all down I35 last night and prayed for you and that new baby and that WS.

I hope you are feeling very blessed with the new little one today.

prayers and love.

and hope that the ws is seeing the eyes that will call him daddy...and realize that he is needed and that his job is but beginning as a father and as a HUSBAND.

prayers for a miracle.

We are home now--me and the new little Texan--Elliot Levi. He came after about ten hours, weighing in at 8lbs 13oz. He has brown hair (this is strange--my other boys are clonds, and WH is red headed) and blue eyes. He is PRECIOUS and BEAUTIFUL (I'll link a pic if someone tells me how).
We had a hard hospital visit as liitle man had to be on antibitics (shots) for 48 hours b/c I had a fever while in labor. They also "messed up" on his circumcision, so he started getting jittery, and they said he was experiencing post-traumatic stress. Today, his blood sugars were low and Billirubin was high, so we go back in the a.m. to get checked. He is doing much better now that we are home. THe antibiotic shots make babies very fussy and gassy.

As for WH--well, he is some piece of work. THe man did not respect my wishes and let me have some peace through all this. HE came to see baby, but it was when he was in the NICU the first night. He texted me the second day--all about how sorry he was, wants to work on it, etc...lots of promises. I replied by saying I was in no state of mind to talk of these things--i was exhausted, worried about the baby, etc. and we could talk next week. THe tm's just kept coming. He gets angry with me. THen the next day he calls the Hospital and tells me that his offer isn't going to be on the table much longer, and I should be jumping on the chance to have him back.
I again said--leave me alone for now, blah, blah...

He was again making even this birth experience about him...and in the most hurtful way. Even said I took away the precious memories of the hospital experience, that I was mean on purpose...I broke down the third day there (the day I was by myself) and luckily a nice nurse was there to calm me down. I felt so silly crying, but I just could not stop. Here i was exhausted, truly stressed about the baby, and dealing with him...I didn't think I was ever going to calm down.

So, I really feel like I cannot deal with him anymore. This is crossing the line. Some of the things in those TM's were so cruel at such a time. I don't know folks. I just don't know...

Thanks to all of you. I love having this place to come to and talk.

Hey there,
I am so glad you and little Tex are doing ok physically. I'm sure he'll get thru all those little baby medical issues just fine.

I'm sorry WH is such a jerk. I can't remember, have you exposed to his family? What do they say about the way he treats you?

He is such a creep to do this while you were in the hospital. Childbirth really plays a number on you emotionally and you did not need this.

I'm still praying for you. Hang in there.

Welcome to Texas, Elliot Levi!!!!!!

Glad mom is doing as well as could be expected under the circumstances. Sorry your WH was being typical.

I was worried about you. I thought it was taking too long. So happy things turned out well.

"Then the next day he calls the Hospital and tells me that his offer isn't going to be on the table much longer, and I should be jumping on the chance to have him back."

Bwahahaaaaaaa!!!!! We have to put this one in the MB hall of fame. I hope you didn't bust out laughing and pull your stitches out.

Congratulations!!

I;ve been watching for an update. 8 lb 13 oz must have been a breeze for you! Didn't you say your other 2 were humongous?
My biggest was 8lb6oz.

I'm glad you are home. It is so much easier when ya get home. Do you have anybody staying with you to help?

I'm glad you had a nice nurse helping you...I wish someone would have taken a ball bat to your WH...but that's not very nice is it? Talk about selfish. But, who's surprised right?

You keep up the good work and get lots of rest. You're gonna need it!

Big Congratulations, intexas! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

So many congratulations to you and baby <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Congratulations!!! I am so happy for you!
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intexas, Congratulations! I'm glad things are going better now at home. I'm so sorry your WH was being such a selfish jerk.

I had a great friend who told my WH that he better stop leaving me cranky, angry voicemails and that I had no responsibility to answer the phone when he wanted me to... thank God for friends who aren't Conflict Avoiders at times like those!!!

He laughs about it now... (over in his chair! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> )

MSA

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Congratulations intexas!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I can't wait for you to post a picture!

Baby is doing well- have to go back in tomorrow again as jaundice is not getting better, but I have been nurding every 2 hours, so hopefully we'll get a better report tomorrow.

WH is killing me right now. I tell him I cannot deal with any relationship talk right now-really, this is the weakest I have felt since all this has started. He told me today that I am choosing to not work on us and I am giving up. Dear God I need to be renewed right now.
It's so hard to "be still" as Ark posted when you can't even get an hours sleep at a time.
Is it wrong to think of him as cruel when he is doing this NOW? He cannot give me a break from his selfish babble. He says he wants to start over--but where would that get us? that would only give him a get out of jail free card, and me a ride on the reading railroad owned by another player. I have so many requirements now--and he only wants to "just come home." He has me feeling like if I say no, then (to quote him) he can at least tell the boys that he tried, but it was your mom who wouldn't give me a second chance.
Does that sound like a man who is remorseful? Or is it a man who just wants to look good and is still thinking of himself? Where's the I am sorry? Where's the what was I thinking?

It's not there--and while I wanted it to be there for so long, I am so scared I may hear it one day. He has somehow put the ball in my court, and I never asked to be on the team.

((((InTexas))))

Is your mom still there with you?

If she is, don't answer your phone. Let her run interference.

Don't take his text messages.

Write out what you need ie:
No Contact - Letter - approved and mailed by you.
Accountability - open book tyhpe things: cell phone, phone calls, emails.
Counseling- Couple and individual

Send this to him plainly stating that these are the conditions that will allow him to come home.

Do not do anything you are not ready to do.