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I know the guy my H is going out with and I like him. He always calls this "guy" when he wants to go out... Is this an innocent dinner or do I wake DD and stake him out???
Not so much of a stake out just checking on the cars!! I know H's car, OW's car, and friends car.
Please help. They are meeting at 8pm... Side note - he told me he is putting on sweats, but he is also shaving his face.
To stake or not to stake??
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If your H were going out on a date with the OW, would he call you up and say he was going out to dinner with OW? Or would he say he was going out with someone else?
You don't need to ask us these things; I know you have the ability to figure this out.
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Okay then. Stake it is!!! I will let you know what I find...
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Can you get a sitter for the baby?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I'm in no way qualified to give advice, but could you call the other guy up at 8:15 and see if he is home? If he answers, etc. You could use a calling card, and then the number shows up as some random long distance number if you are worried your WH will think you are checking in on him. Disguise your voice, be someone else, etc...have a friend call for you.
That way you won't have to get baby out and about.
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Shaving to go out with a "guy." Think about it. Would you shave your legs to meet the girls for dinner?
If you call this guy you may not learn much. He may be supporting your H's antics.
Go there and I agree with Melody..find a sitter...
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I don't have the guys home phone and he is not listed. H just called and he is there right now. No time for a sitter... WHAT DO I DO???
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I say go--now is THE time. I think you'll regret it if you don't go. I agree with the sitter, too. You'll be calmer, and if you do see OW's car, you won't have to deal with a little one when figuring out waht to do.
Are you bringing a camera to take a pic of his car and her car? Otherwise, he could deny it no matter what--but a pic is proof he can't deny.
Hoep I am being helpful.
When I suggested calling, I was meaning not saying you were WH's wife.
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Okey - dokey - peace out. Will let you know what I find. Not really feeling that I am going to find a darn thing this evening, but willing to to do this to save my marriage. DD will understand some day and she will be very proud of her mommy for fighting so hard!!!
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Call him up and ask him to put his friend on the phone.
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DDay 1 (Multiple affairs while overseas) - Feb 2003
DDay 2 (AdultFriendFinder Profile) - April 2007
Seeing a counselor. I think we have him stumped.
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I hope she contains herself and doesn't approach him. Hopefully, if he is with the OW, she takes digital pic [with the flash turned off] from far off, along with a picture of their cars.
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HOLY CRAP!!! He wasn't there or at another restaurant or even at his apartment - NOW WHAT!!!!!!!
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do you know where she lives?
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Do you know where the friend lives?
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Where else do you think he could be? Would he be at OW's apartment? Do you know OW's phone #? Can you call there from a payphone and ask for her just to see if she is home? Or better yet, I think you can disguise your caller ID by punching in *67 and then your #. See if she is home. If she is home, you could drive by and see if your H's car is there.
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tried, they do not accept call from blocked callers. NOW WHAT????
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How else could you call there? Where does she live?
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He called and said he is at another restaurant... I freaked out and blamed it on our DD having a high fever... DO I GO THERE???
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