I can't believe it's been two years ago since my WxH was forced to tell me about his A. My world came crashing down.

The OW "accidently" left evidence of the A around the house so her H would find it. When he did, it left my Wh to tell me about the A in fear of me finding out by someone else.

The OW's H filed for DV the next day and never looked back. He didn't want to even save the marriage. Unlike my WH who wanted to work on our marriage, but since the OW was free she did everything she could to destroy us and succeed.

Two years later, everyone tells me how strong I was through all of this and handle this matter with dignity.

I don't cry as much, but I still do on occasion. I do miss him but I don't think I want him back.

Sometimes I think I'm ready to move on and most days I don't. It's not fair to start another relationship while still having issues.

Yesterday the OW's ex-husband came into my office (he is client of mine) to introduce me to his new wife, they got married over the holidays and he is moving to CT from NJ to start his life over.

I'm happy for him but sometimes I wished he tried to save his marriage, maybe it would have save mine. I don't blame him though, after all the games she played to destroy my marriage while being married (by the way he is a terrific guy), he probably just wanted to get rid of her.

Well, happy anniversary. Three years today for me!

What a difference time makes, eh? I think fate was doing me a favor. He's on a downward swing, looks unhappy (but won't change his sitch -- that would be tantamont to admitting he was wrong)...I'm kind of glad I'm out of it.

I'm sad for the future we could have had, and sad because I valued my marriage so much. But I know now that he was going downhill even before I was in the picture. There was nothing I could do, though I'm glad for what I did.

Life is too short for bummers.

It's Twelfth Night. Invite some friends over. Tell them how much you love them. Mull some cider. It's the night of the Magi, and gifts. Find reasons to celebrate. There are plenty.