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i have been married for 4 years and we have beautiful almost 3 year old son. my husband and i have been growing apart over the last few years and it keeps getting worse. our courtship and marriage went rapidly, and we were both very busy with work ans such. now that life has settled down, we are opposites, nothing in common and we have no spark of connection. i don't believe we have core to build a solid marriage and i don't want to live a loveless marriage for the next 30 years. suggestions?
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Do you believe there is infidelity in your marriage?
me-FBS M-6/84 3 great kids
A-2/03-5/04 DDay-5/8/04 WD - severe-5/04-9/04 with continuing C; NC ltr-9/3/04
In Recovery with God's help
Praying for all WS/BS. Blessings!
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Have you shared these concerns with your husband? Without more information, I'd say: don't have an affair, and seek marriage counseling with a pro-marriage counselor. I'm sure others here have advice for you. It might help if you included more specific information about your situation.
ncn
BS - 27 (me)
WW - 23 (living with OM since 9/16)
OM - 32 (OMW - 33)
no kids/pets in either marriage
d-day - 9/12/05
EA/PA - 6/05-present
Exposed to OMW 10/5/05, Exposed to ILs 10/18/05
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S&D,
Get the book, His Needs, Her Needs and use those principals to re-build your marriage the right way. Is your husband concerned about your marriage or just you?
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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we are both concerned and have been in counseling for many months. the counseling just seems to point out our differences more and more. my husband is content, his needs aren't at the same level as mine. sometimes aren't people just not meant to be together? isn't there a point where you realize it's not going to work out?
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I have to echo bigkahuna's post. You should get that book (which can be purchased on this website) and read it together.
What sort of things are you discussing in counseling? What sort of advice are you receiving? Perhaps you should find a new counselor.
ncn
BS - 27 (me)
WW - 23 (living with OM since 9/16)
OM - 32 (OMW - 33)
no kids/pets in either marriage
d-day - 9/12/05
EA/PA - 6/05-present
Exposed to OMW 10/5/05, Exposed to ILs 10/18/05
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