The last few days have been good ones for me. I have finally found some peace and am settling into a routine that works for me. Church, friends and a little therapy go a long way.

I found out somethings about the OW this evening that are truly tagic and I am not sure what to do with it.

My WH met the OW at a College Choir Alumni function. The director and his wife have known us for years and I confided a couple of things with them about the relationship that had developed between my WH and OW. At the time we were attempting recovery, and they were supportive. Last year we showed up at an Alumni Choir function together - and that is where I met the OW. She wanted to be friends, asked if we could all go out to dinner, I said no - WH and I had already decided that. We left after the day of rehersals and returned to our friends home. OW asked the director where we were staying and he refused to tell her - told her it wasn't any of her business. When she found out, she asked for directions to the house. I suppose she was planning on showing up and making a scene.

Tonight I talked with the director and his wife to let them know we had separated. The first question out of their mouth was whether it was becuase of this OW. They were disgusted. Just this fall she was cited as the reason for a divorce of another choir member. She had developed a relationship with another man, and while he insists that there was no affair, OW called his wife and repeatedly contacted him after he had asked her not to. The wife couldn't believe it and filed.

So this makes 1 divorce and one separation for this OW. And my WH thinks she's an angel!

What is your spin on this - is there any way to use this?

you could sit back and wait for his return or you could ask this pastor and his wife to talk to your H. It would be better for him to hear this from someone else than you. If you have to tell him and let his check with the pastor and his wife to back you up on this. Of course he may think he is different then the others.