Tialynn~

I think you can purchase info about a cell phone for example what name it's registered under and the cell phone records for a reasonable price if i'm not mistaken.. Try www.locatecell.com

and I sure hope this rollercoaster is over for you soon enough.. Take Care

As to whether I would encourage the destroying of the OP's reputation if the WS would also be destroyed, generally, YES.

I see no reason for vindictiveness, however. If the WS has decided to move out and is not even pretending to work on the M, then let him/her go and don't give another thought to what he she is up to.

If the WS is pretending to be in the M, and is either sitting on the fence or thinks the A is totally secret, he/she is fair game, and he/she should know it.

Remember, a person's reputation can only really be destroyed by his/her own actions, and if what the WS is doing would tend to damage his/her reputation it's only because it is an activity which is fundamentally disapproved in society.

You can't save everybody. And you can never really save somebody from himself/herself if he/she doesn't really want to be saved...

It's totally different, though, when the WS becomes a FWS. At that point, I believe in doing everything possible to protect the FWS's reputation and restoring him/her to the M and community.

How did the tracking go Tialynn?

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Jesus loves you!!

Lady

Well the whole thing was a bust!
I paid $30 on a site for cell phone #'s.
All it did was send me to more sites asking for
MORE money!!! Don't bother with that.
I blasted the pay company and the site
so I'm getting a refund!

Anyway, I totally agree that my H is not trying to stay or even pretend to be in the marriage.
It won't make any difference as far as us staying together now. The ball is in motion.

The differnce & importance is to ME!
I have suspected him of things in the past & did all I could to give him every chance. I believed & had faith in him. But he has lied and continues to lie.

It's hard to explain but our circle of friends think he's the greatest thing since sliced bread.
He seems to want to appear to be doing "right" by me or some how look galant. I'm not sure but he makes me sick.
One friend described him as "a lost little boy right now".
(That friend has since learned better!)

That's just bull-$#!& ~!!!! He's a liar!
I can hardly believe that all of this was laying just underneath the surface with him. He's a great actor and very few have seen this side of him.

The only thing proving his infidelity & lying does is justify in my mind that "I" did everything possible in our marriage & that I wasn't crazy or "over reacting" to his "friendships" over the years.

It's just something I need for myself.
It's hurtful but no more than anything else he's done.
It wipes away that nagging little doubt that lingers saying "What did I do wrong?"
Rationally I know I didn't "do" anything but my heart just wants the proof.
It's hard either way but at least I don't feel crazy anymore. At least not about that! ;-)

He needs to own up to his side of this marriage & it's failure.
That's just how I feel right now.

Thanks so much for listening guys &
all of the help gang.
I know it's only the beginning.

Ha! ROFL!!!!!!!!

You guys are something else.
Mom, buddy & I had plenty of ideas.
The problem was it is clear and so is
the bottle (except the label).
SoOO! I had an idea & put into action.
I won't say what but I don't know if it
was enough for a true effect.
I'm hoping it caused at at least a little
irritation. ;-o
We'll see when he comes home. I'm almost
scared! He also doesn't have health insurance
right now. Sure hope he didn't have to go
to the hospital.
I'm sure I'd have been arrested by now.
Let ya know.

Oh, my. I love people who take quick, decisive action. Being proactive is far superior to sitting back and wondering what is best. I think you're my hero. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

The attempt at tracking him didn't go well either?

Tialynn...

What area are you in? It doesn't sound like a PI is in the budget right now...there are some of us here that might be able to figure out how to bust your H for you...Longhorn or "Special Agent __" as I think I'll start calling you <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />, what's the referral protocol here if you get my drift?

Mrs. W

I'm in Va Beach, VA.
I call my best friend & I the bumbling Spies (or PI's) lol!

I sure would love to get the owner of that #.
I called it myself friday night & it was a woman.
One I didn't recognize but have an idea.
I saw her name on the his cell in the call log but
didn't get a chance to look up the #.
I'm thinking of just stealing the phone.
With the bill he created in Dec I won't have to (now up to $640!!!!) Can't wait to give him that!!!
Ugh! work is crazy check in later

Nuts at lunch time around here.

Well, H came home last night. Happy & smug as ever! ugh!
It was very weird. Anyone ever experience this kind of behavior from a spouse???

Happy, offered pizza he ordered (I asked if it was poisoned, He just looked at me!), he was putting a load of clothes in the washer, next thing he comes walking out Naked & says smiling from ear to ear "sorry".

I was on the phone with my mom. I told her I think it was just to prove that he was 'ok' ie - no damage from my tampering with the slippery stuff. Dang it!!!

It was still very weird since he won't come anywhere near me even in underwear. He has no worries. I don't know where he's been. Even if I did, it's much too late!

I'm not surprised at anything he does these days!
I just can't wait until things are some what settled and I can bust the poopie out of him with all I know.
I want everyone to know what a liar he is.
He seems so happy with his self it makes me sick.
Never thought I'd be writing this kind of stuff.
The sad part is that I have all of you sharing the same kind of things. It's horrible.

Thanks for the support guys,

Forgot,
For those of us on the "get 'em band wagon"

I was going through my dresser last night.
I found another "pleasure" item.
I have decided the next time he takes a
trip I'm going to put it in his bag or
wrap it as a present with a note that says
"Thought you'd like this for your trip.
Do you get off on using MY stuff on your S!#!s?!!
Does she know it's USED?!!!!"

Mama said I'd be giving my self away.
I don't care. He'd be admitting it if he
acknowledges anything. ;-)
He will get his!!!
karma is a B!!

Very strange behavior. Is there any possibility he's found a new drug? I'm almost sure I'm kidding.

I was stationed at Langley AFB for 5 years. Wish I was there still. I'd be happy to see if I couldn't help track him all the way to wherever he's going. Do you think he's going north of Hampton Roads through the tunnel or just cross town? If north, and if memory serves, there are a couple of places on the other side of the tunnel where another friend could wait for someone to come by. Trying to follow close for a long time is really hard to do from what I've read on the subject.

Be strong. Our thoughts are with you.

Thanks for the offer Longhorn.
I know he is going to Charlotte NC. (not towards tunnel)
He is planning to move there. Apparently asap!
He has said different but this trip was said to be about a job with his former asst mgr that runs a shop there.

He also claims to have stayed with him 2 nights & another friend the other 2.
I didn't bother to call & see (with caller id forget it!).
Also took me all weekend to get one of the #s.

The ? for me is who he took or saw while there to use MY personals with!!! That's the only reason I care honestly.
I can't imagine anything more disgusting. :-P
And to prove he's a liar!
It will just make me feel better to prove it. Ya know.

I'll find out somehow. I know the number is a cell based in Norfolk. His buddy that lives in Charl has the same cell exchange (think AllTel). You can take a cell anywhere.

I'm going to keep after it just for myself.
It won't change the proceedings either way.
Of course, forgiveness will be much longer off.

Thanks again