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I got a NC letter! IMVHO, the most sincere NC letter I have ever seen. It was written by a man that wants to be a better man. A man that wants his family. Yep, we are reconciling. I was afraid it was one of those holiday false recoveries that Believer warned about but no he is so sincere. I knew he loved me. I have known that for certain for months but the A is finally over! Two long years and an OC and we stand on the threshold of recovery. Am I frightened? You betcha. Am I ready? Yes! I feel better equipped than I ever have in my life. I have gotten him to read here at the boards some.
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Well, it is a cautious first step. Watch your back, watch for cues and make him EARN back your trust. Do you have a plan of recovery in place?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Yes FF, there really IS a Santa Claus.
Awesome news! We'll talk tonight over a bbq sandwich.
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There are people in the world so hungry, that God cannot appear to them except in the form of bread.
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Don't think exposure is a good idea? Go here...
From Harley Himself
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I am cautious Mel and the only plan I have right now is for us to start tackling the MB material. My hope is he will eventually post here but I won't hold my breath LOL
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Good for you FF! Glad to hear some good news around here. I know the pros will help you take care of the rest. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
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Dday 4/05; WH "needed space" and left 5/05
WH Filed D papers 6/05 - Divorce final 12/05
WH moved in with OW 11/05; moved out OW 1/06
12/06 His 3rd and strongest attempt at reconcilliation (I believe OW still in picture)
2/07 Affair over, begging me to take him back - it's too late.
WH has tried numerous times to reconcile.
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Thanks, Flukie! I'd love to chat over a sammich! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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(((FF)))
I am so thrilled!!! Same word of caution as the others - take care of yourself first and foremost...but WOW!!!! Do you have things in place to ensure that he will do so?
Aww FF - I hope this is the beginning for yoU!!!!
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Thank you God for forgiving me and giving me a chance to prove myself to you and my boys!
I won't let any of you down again!!
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Congratulations! Great Job!
"Never argue with idiots or WSs, They just drag you down to their level and beat you with experience"
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My hope is he will eventually post here but I won't hold my breath LOL My H would never post here .... but he will read (or have me read to him) any post I think is relevant ... posting on MB is certainly optional .... FF .... be on the lookout for your Uber-Giver .... and sacrificing is O U T
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Congrat's I am soo happy for you. Good Luck in your recovery.
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Kids: DD-18 DS-15 DS-6
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D-day #1 6-2005 ILYBNILY
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That's wonderful news. Sending prayers to reinforce his intentions!
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DDay 1 (Multiple affairs while overseas) - Feb 2003
DDay 2 (AdultFriendFinder Profile) - April 2007
Seeing a counselor. I think we have him stumped.
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WHAT ABOUT "THE GREAT PUMPKIN"?????
HUGE HUGS AND PRAYERS GOING OUT!!!!
what we do in life......echoes in eternity!
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Listen to Mel & Pep dear Aunty Faith but its a great start!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Life may feel as if you are constantly getting kicked on a daily basis, living is about picking yourself up each day and going on and on and on regardless.
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{{{{faithful follower}}}}}}} Careful with your heart FF and remember,, ACTIONS ACTIONS ACTIONS!! Hoping for the VERY best for you two!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Joyful, joyful, faithful follower!
In my mind, I hold your hands and dance round and around in a happy circle, smiling and laughing.
I believe too!
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FF I am happy for this, but I WORRY. I don't want you crushed again.
In your place, I'd go for detached (in a good way) optimism if I could.
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FF .... be on the lookout for your Uber-Giver ....
and sacrificing is O U T Yes ma'am. BTW, the scales have become more balanced in our home of late. He helps with the kids, cooking, cleaning etc. All without my asking. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Oh and Pep, your words about my fingerprints all over things has really, really helped me.
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am so thrilled!!! Same word of caution as the others - take care of yourself first and foremost...but WOW!!!! Do you have things in place to ensure that he will do so? Dorry, we have discussed what I need to begin to trust him. The first step was giving me access to his truck. I cleaned the whole thing out! Next was the NC letter and a copy of the receipt for the cancelled secret phone and last is the whole truth. We have yet to work out the manner in which it is done but he has answered little questions as I ask. Honesty and keeping his word are the tasks he is working on himself.
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FF I am happy for this, but I WORRY. I don't want you crushed again.
In your place, I'd go for detached (in a good way) optimism if I could. I am GC. I am at the healthiest place I have ever been. I am still reading my books on codependency. I am keeping my distance to allow him to grow and change while I continue to work on my issues. I don't want to be crushed again either but I would have been if we had D'd so why not give God the opportunity to show me where He has been leading me.
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