Having a difficult time these past few days for some reason. Affair-related thoughts and nightmares keep rushing into my head for some reason. Losing lots of sleep. Got 2 hours last night and a couple before that over a few nights. We've been fine for a while but now things are coming back into my head. Seems whenever I close my eyes all I can think about is the betrayal. I have no idea what is triggering these thoughts.

My FWW has been doing everything she should be doing and she is wonderful, yet I still can't get these thoughts out of my head. I'm hoping my IC appointment coming up Thursday night will help.

Melatonin is in the vitamin section at the drug store. It is a natural sleep aid that I use. It doesn't leave you feeling drugged in the morning. It just sort of makes me feel more relaxed and drift off easier. Extra dreaming may be healthy. It gives your mind a chance to sort out all the stuff that has been going on.

Hi H4f,

I am over 2 years post DDay and I still do not sleep all that well.Probably because I am going through the D now and I still think about things every day,to some extent.

Most of the time you just have to let your mind try and work things out and it will pass and get easier.Like talking about the A,it's difficult and stressful but necessary to go through for now.Other times,what worked for me is having a really interesting book to read at bedtime,warm milk( does work for me!) and a nice hot shower/bath before bed to relax.Also some lavender scents can help some people.A candle,some face cream or a bowl of potpourri(just what a guy needs!) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

It's all normal though in response to the trauma.When I first found out about the A,and after the numbness turned into shock,I literally did not sleep for 3 weeks.I started to hallucinate and had to be put on AD's and sleep aids.I am glad those days are gone though.

Take good care of yourself.

O

H4F,

It is my understanding that BSs usually feel a lot of emotion around the 8-month mark. It sounds like it's right on time for you.

Cat

Hmmm... I'll look into that right after I go for my soothing chest-hair waxing. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Hey there,
I agree the 8 month mark was difficult. Some days are good and some days are not so good.

Last week, for the first time in 8.5 months, I felt really good. I felt like the fog I have been under has lifted. I'm not sure that I won't feel that way, again, but for now it is good. There were a few days around the 8 month mark, I felt nearly as bad as the week of d-day.

Hang in there, it surely has to get better,.